Accepting care from yourself
A follow on from my post about why self care is difficult, as I want to talk more about accepting care from yourself. Learning to live with chronic illness...
My relationship with the holidays
If you’ve known me for a while, you know that I have an interesting relationship with the holidays. I enjoy winter and Christmas. I like the cold weather,...
Self talk is part of the pattern
Self flagellation is a way to avoid actually working on anything you want to change. Let me try to break this down with an example: I repeat a pattern that I...
September was pain awareness month
This is the closest thing I've done to a traditional blog rather than a post that has a point or a message in a while. It talks about chronic pain, as a...
Self Talk
It's been a while since I've thought about self talk as a subject for content. I made a video about it recently, talking about how things like 'you can't...
Sinking into it
So some of you may know that my exercise of choice is Pole Dancing. It works wonders for my balance, strength, and confidence. There's a move in pole called...
self-awareness vs metacognition
Self-awareness is an understanding of your own emotions, thoughts, and behaviours. It allows you to reflect on yourself and how you are in various...
The Nonsense Index
I was talking to a friend recently (hi Simon) about some nonsense that's happening with my training centre. I've been there for the entirety of my...
Taking Ownership
Carl Rogers defined seven stages of the counselling process for the client, and these describe the journey someone might take when it comes to entering...
The 7 types of rest
What does rest mean to you? I've been thinking about rest because I'm doing a self compassion workshop in September, and I've been trying to find the way in...
Resistance
As someone who's on both sides of the counselling relationship. I've experienced resistance from either side. There's a dichotomy to resistance a lot of the...
On Stuckness (paywall removed)
Every few months I remove the paywall from a piece of writing that I’m particularly proud of. If you’d like to receive writing weekly, you can upgrade to a...
Responsibility
I have a weird relationship with responsibility, and it's something I'm having to work through in personal counselling. Growing up I had lots of...
Screen time, habits, and friction
I'm familiar with this feeling of waiting, not wanting to do anything in case something else happens. A lot of the time it makes no sense, because there's...
Dysregulation continued
I’m still pondering regulation, and how we can use emotional regulation as avoidance. There’s also a trend on social media of people talking about how they...
Dysregulation and avoidance
I'm starting to feel a little wary every time I hear the word dysregulation, or dysregulated in reference to a person. It feels a bit pathologising of...
Pole dancing and patience
(or, what pole dancing taught me about b2b marketing self care) I do pole dancing, which some of you may know. I'm currently going fortnightly, in order to...
why self care is hard
I'm doing a workshop about self care this weekend, so I'm thinking about it again. I've spoken a lot about self care, about how to break it down, how to try...
The aftermath of helping
So I've been gone for a while, and I apologise for that. Without giving too much away that isn't mine to give, I went to France to help a friend, and then...
Witnessing your feelings
The emotion is free to naturally arise and pass, and you are strengthening your capacity to rest in an open, witnessing presenceRadical Compassion, Tara...
