i don't know anyone else who thinks like you
Just the other day I had a sweet call with a close friend of mine, Eve (not her real name). Eve happens to be a founder, whose business is going through a...
when "no" feels safer
I’ve been sitting in a unique lull period. There’s not much to do, for the next little while. The march is a few weeks away. The happenings that brought me...
welcoming nature's caress
Last week, I helped hold a small grief ritual in Transylvania, looking directly at the unpredictability of water and asking the land for help. Nineteen of us...
taking silence as a companion
In lieu of a larger life update (it’s coming, I promise! After stone soup) here is some everyday wisdom that has been holding me in this time. People are...
an entire mesh network of grandmothers
As I spend more quality time with my mom, traveling through Tamil Nadu together, having more fun than we have had in ages, as I meet family members of my...
there are fewer escape routes
Hello friend, All I feel able to write about is longing. In particular, the longing for connection. I think about writing every single day, wanting to reach...
just a second between flash and rumble
I remember reading a story about a young girl who learns to track the movement of thunderstorms from her grandmother. It’s a simple trick: since light...
I long for you to know you have more choices than this one
Over the years I’ve collected many stories from founders. Friends, colleagues, and clients who got in the game because they saw the possibility to create...
they will send you right to the sky
Thatha: “Why do you have such a long beard and wear your hair like that?" Rishi: “Because I like it” Thatha: “Well, I don’t like it.” pauses “Don’t mistake...
what's your favorite music to dance to?
There are times when I feel agitated, stuck, slowed down by sludge. Feelings that want to be expressed become heavy, and I feel caged. You likely already...
how do we get our vision back?
The tech industry (and capitalism / imperialism / domination at large) strips creative & intelligent people of their agency and vision. Think about it: the...
vignettes from the final week before departure
Angela and I host a big grief party. It is a tremendous undertaking, and nerve-wracking to host something that feels so different, but I get to cry with old...
i want more good intimacy
A mentor of mine, Yvette, says that there is only one kind of relationship that's purely unconditional: the one between parent and child. Since these are the...
i want more good intimacy
A mentor of mine, Yvette, says that there is only one kind of relationship that's purely unconditional: the one between parent and child. Since these are the...
forward this to an engineer you care about
Contrary to what your product manager says, most engineers aren't un-creative. They're human beings, so they're naturally creative. What I feel most people...
time is precious
Last night, I met someone who’s seeing his dad today for the first time in six years. He was ambivalent about it; his dad hadn’t been around for much of his...
my fur is starting to grow again
The wolf is both domesticated and un-domesticable. Looking out at the world from behind the bars of the cage I put him in, snapping occasionally at the door....
i don't wanna feel alone in it anymore
I have spent so much of this week feeling sick in my stomach. Yesterday I must have cried for over an hour, throughout the morning. The images of Iran on...
what if there was nothing to solve?
I feel paralyzed by the grief often. Today it looks like having a moment of feeling stuck, sitting on the couch. The house is cold but I don't want to make...
inquiries regarding listening to the land
Have you ever let yourself listen to the rocks in your front yard? How often do you touch or lean on a beautiful tree?Who is it that you consider “a person,”...