Hi Cody, I want to thank you for your openness and transparency around money and debt. You've inspired me to give myself compassion and grace when asking myself those same persnickety questions, like why did I spend all my money on X or letting intrusive thoughts like, if I could only be better, smarter, wiser, stronger like X I wouldn't have gotten divorced and laid off in the same three month period during the pandemic, only to switch industries and start living alone for the first time in my life, while depressed. I ultimately burrowed myself into a nice deep hole of credit card debt that I've been steadily digging myself out of for the last year or so. I also took really good care of myself during that time of going into debt. I traveled and had the most amazing experiences, I rested when I felt like the world was crashing down, I splurged for the organic salad bar at my co-op, so, yeah, call me irresponsible or overindulgent, but saved my own life. Maybe we don't need to be so hard on ourselves, after all.
I'm working one of the traditional boring jobs while tending to other work that brings meaning and joy. You're right, it's entirely about self-protection. I'm solo and have to make different choices now. It feels good and safe to have a reliable income and good health insurance. The boring job is helping me pay down my debt, which, if I continue on track, should be paid off in the next three or four years. And what else? I realized money comes and goes, and that since I've got good health insurance with fertility benefits, hell, I'm gonna go big and live life to the fullest; I bought donor sperm and am going to have a baby on my own as a solo queer. There's a tiny baby growing in me as I type this.
I mean it when I say you've deeply inspired me to live bravely, to choose life bodly, to live no one else's life but mine and that I am good and enough. Thank you. <3
Hi Cody, I want to thank you for your openness and transparency around money and debt. You've inspired me to give myself compassion and grace when asking myself those same persnickety questions, like why did I spend all my money on X or letting intrusive thoughts like, if I could only be better, smarter, wiser, stronger like X I wouldn't have gotten divorced and laid off in the same three month period during the pandemic, only to switch industries and start living alone for the first time in my life, while depressed. I ultimately burrowed myself into a nice deep hole of credit card debt that I've been steadily digging myself out of for the last year or so. I also took really good care of myself during that time of going into debt. I traveled and had the most amazing experiences, I rested when I felt like the world was crashing down, I splurged for the organic salad bar at my co-op, so, yeah, call me irresponsible or overindulgent, but saved my own life. Maybe we don't need to be so hard on ourselves, after all.
I'm working one of the traditional boring jobs while tending to other work that brings meaning and joy. You're right, it's entirely about self-protection. I'm solo and have to make different choices now. It feels good and safe to have a reliable income and good health insurance. The boring job is helping me pay down my debt, which, if I continue on track, should be paid off in the next three or four years. And what else? I realized money comes and goes, and that since I've got good health insurance with fertility benefits, hell, I'm gonna go big and live life to the fullest; I bought donor sperm and am going to have a baby on my own as a solo queer. There's a tiny baby growing in me as I type this.
I mean it when I say you've deeply inspired me to live bravely, to choose life bodly, to live no one else's life but mine and that I am good and enough. Thank you. <3