SCB Holiday questions post 1: How do I deal with a family I hate?
For the past couple of years, I've invited questions about survivng/enjoying the holiday period. I'm going to be publishing ones from last year and new ones here, free over the next month or so.
Giving In vs Giving Permission
Sometimes wew need permission to rest, even if it feels like giving in to our feelings
On sobriety
I've not really spoken about my sobriety online yet, until now
Holiday season preparation
The holiday season is upon us. Let's talk about preparing for it
On the validity of instinct and feelings
"Your brain is lying to you" is a refrain often seen on social media accounts, usually ones that talk about anxiety, or anxiety-related issues. It's true,...
September is Suicide Prevention Month
TW: Suicidal IdeationI've written before how I am ambivalent to mental health awareness months/days but I've been thinking about September being Suicide...
Kind accountability and consistency
Kind accountability is a reframing exercise. It's similar to the way I use affirmations as future compliments: instead of framing an improvement or change...
September's SCB community theme: gratitude
I've started monthly themes and challenges over on the SCB discord. I wanted to provide an optional framework for people to work with if they want, and it...
The shame of housework
Almost 1000 words on housework, plus community news!
Being Vulnerable with ourselves.
Thank you so much for being a paid subscriber! I've been super busy at events this month, so here's a snippet from my book for this week's post.
Gentle redirection aka gentle parenting your brain
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Find your glimmers
Have you heard of glimmers? It’s a relatively new term was coined by Deb Dana, in her 2018 book The Polyvagal Theory in Therapy. Glimmers are the opposite of...
On walking and the changing nature of self care
I had a couple of revelations this week. I saw a tiktok where someone described their restful time as letting their brain be unregulated a bit. They spoke...
Working with your bullshit, not against it
The official SCB discord is open! Sign up here to join a community working on self care: https://discord.gg/B3hF5X3ZyA Let’s talk about how to know your own...
5 years
The official SCB discord is open! Sign up here to join a community working on self care: https://discord.gg/B3hF5X3ZyA On 23rd June, it’ll be 5 years since I...
Sometimes it's not that deep
Feeling your feelings will always bring some learning, but sometimes that learning is...'oh. Those feelings make sense, I don't need to act on them.', which can leave you feeling adrift a bit.
Comfort zones
We often think of comfort zones as only something to be avoided if we need to grow, but I think we need a more nuanced take, and a comfort zone is something to be strived for.
It's Mental Health Awareness Month
And it was Mental Health Awareness Week in the UK this month. Here's why I've not written about it (until now)
When empathy is difficult
Figuring out where you're blocked from empathy can be an interesting exercise
Plan for bad days on your good days
This sounds obvious, and it is, but it's also a surprisingly powerful exercise
