judgment
judgment is an evaluation based on a moral framework of rightfulness.
judgment is an expression of non-acceptance of reality, so is accompanied by anger.
example: "X is right/wrong fair/unfair"
judgment is often not conscious due the subject not being aware that its own believes being fallacy of narrative as truths, which is often accompanied by not realizing the others may have a different map of meaning.
judgment is an unconscious strategy to meet the need for validation and certainty need. It's a "reality check" mechanism that compares the perceived reality with the subject's map of meaning. By doing so, the subject reaffirms itself as being in the right track.
When a judgment is expressed out loud is usually an unconscious strategy to meet the need for externa validation.
judgment as well as a simple evaluation, when expressed out loud, specially when they're not associated with the underlying needs and feelings of the subject are very harmful to the others around. Due to the inherent strong need for belonging the others around often interpret the evaluations as a statement of the form: "If you don't fit my believes of rightfulness you won't be loved by me", even if it does not make a direct reference to them.
judgment towards the authenticity of someone produces non-acceptance of authenticity which often, specially in infants that are exposed to it reiteratively, transforms into trauma.
Giving non-solicited advice or suggestions (evaluations disconnected from the other need) is a common form of judgment, as is usually interpreted as. "What you do is wrong, it does not fit my ideas of rightfulss, therefore you won't be love".
judgment prevents presence as brings the subject pre-existing narratives to the present, so the present is evaluated through them.
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