First, a recommendation: Nic, your first podcast rec reminded me of an episode of Martha Beck and Rowan Mangan's podcast Bewildered from December 2025 called "I Want to be the Person Who." Instead of showing you how to be that person, though, they walk through whether or not you REALLY want to be that person. It gave me a lot of food for thought last week, and I highly recommend it!
Now: What's Working (2-Months-Post-Unexpected-Divorce Edition)
Taking my dog on 4x walks a day, even in the rain. Allowing myself to just have hard days when they come up, because probably the next day will be better. Tea--literally all the time, all the tea. Inner child work. Melody Beattie's Codependency No More. Heated Rivalry. Trying out bubble baths for the first time in like 30 years and kinda digging them. Doing whatever the fuck I want. Finally admitting that I hate to cook and just allowing myself to... not? Being kind to myself. Watching Heated Rivalry AGAIN. Talking to strangers on the internet about their own divorce experiences and not feeling so alone. Laying on the couch and reading smutty romance novels all evening instead of ever turning on the TV. Reminding myself that I don't have to run out and join the dating apps just because my ex found someone a month later, and knowing that I'd rather work on myself and enjoy just being alone for a while.
First, a recommendation: Nic, your first podcast rec reminded me of an episode of Martha Beck and Rowan Mangan's podcast Bewildered from December 2025 called "I Want to be the Person Who." Instead of showing you how to be that person, though, they walk through whether or not you REALLY want to be that person. It gave me a lot of food for thought last week, and I highly recommend it!
Now: What's Working (2-Months-Post-Unexpected-Divorce Edition)
Taking my dog on 4x walks a day, even in the rain. Allowing myself to just have hard days when they come up, because probably the next day will be better. Tea--literally all the time, all the tea. Inner child work. Melody Beattie's Codependency No More. Heated Rivalry. Trying out bubble baths for the first time in like 30 years and kinda digging them. Doing whatever the fuck I want. Finally admitting that I hate to cook and just allowing myself to... not? Being kind to myself. Watching Heated Rivalry AGAIN. Talking to strangers on the internet about their own divorce experiences and not feeling so alone. Laying on the couch and reading smutty romance novels all evening instead of ever turning on the TV. Reminding myself that I don't have to run out and join the dating apps just because my ex found someone a month later, and knowing that I'd rather work on myself and enjoy just being alone for a while.