Nic, I have been a casual reader of your work for years - I can’t say I’m a super fan but I have appreciated your thoughtfulness and your relentless pursuit of living life on your own terms.
I am so sorry to hear that you will lose both parents within a year. The same thing happened to me in 2017-2018 and it completely unmoored me. I will tell you that I had more time to read your work at that point in my life, and it was a comfort to know there were others out there dealing with life upheaval and trying to learn a little more about themselves and how to care for themselves in the process. I am sure the current moment is impossibly awful, but you have developed many skills for getting through awful things over the years. You will get through this, even if it takes a long time to unfurl from the grief of this moment.
I leave you with a memory of when my mom was on home hospice. It was May, and season finale time for many TV shows. My mom and I were watching some crime/cop show, which ended on a cliffhanger. Under her breath, in her usual snark, she clicked her tongue and said “I don’t have time for this.” It was both gallows humor and extremely true - none of us will ever have enough time for the things we enjoy and the people we love.
Sending all of the good vibes to you, and peace and comfort to your mom. Thank you for being a source of quiet comfort to me many years ago when I was in your shoes.
Nic, I have been a casual reader of your work for years - I can’t say I’m a super fan but I have appreciated your thoughtfulness and your relentless pursuit of living life on your own terms.
I am so sorry to hear that you will lose both parents within a year. The same thing happened to me in 2017-2018 and it completely unmoored me. I will tell you that I had more time to read your work at that point in my life, and it was a comfort to know there were others out there dealing with life upheaval and trying to learn a little more about themselves and how to care for themselves in the process. I am sure the current moment is impossibly awful, but you have developed many skills for getting through awful things over the years. You will get through this, even if it takes a long time to unfurl from the grief of this moment.
I leave you with a memory of when my mom was on home hospice. It was May, and season finale time for many TV shows. My mom and I were watching some crime/cop show, which ended on a cliffhanger. Under her breath, in her usual snark, she clicked her tongue and said “I don’t have time for this.” It was both gallows humor and extremely true - none of us will ever have enough time for the things we enjoy and the people we love.
Sending all of the good vibes to you, and peace and comfort to your mom. Thank you for being a source of quiet comfort to me many years ago when I was in your shoes.