I often reject the kindness approach towards myself because everyone around me already does that for me. When I've failed in my previous business attempts, they keep coming up with external excuses as to why I failed, trying to deflect the errors that I'm responsible for which caused the downfall of my previous businesses.
I'm also very hesitant to be kind to myself (in the realm of business) because I get this sense that society as a whole is putting on a facade of "pathological kindness." I sense a push towards kindness that is used more to absolve individuals from self-responsibility and escaping uncomfortable truths. For example, the fat acceptance movement wants to avoid hurting the feelings of others (wants to "be kind") and so pretends that being obese is just as healthy as being fit. Or other examples like when people want to blame your failures on immigrants or racism to be kind to you, rather than telling you that you have spent too much time scrolling on social media instead of making yourself more employable.
My overall point (whether valid or not) is that I have become adverse to kindness in the business world because it seems to be the first step towards renouncing one's self-responsibility.
I often reject the kindness approach towards myself because everyone around me already does that for me. When I've failed in my previous business attempts, they keep coming up with external excuses as to why I failed, trying to deflect the errors that I'm responsible for which caused the downfall of my previous businesses. I'm also very hesitant to be kind to myself (in the realm of business) because I get this sense that society as a whole is putting on a facade of "pathological kindness." I sense a push towards kindness that is used more to absolve individuals from self-responsibility and escaping uncomfortable truths. For example, the fat acceptance movement wants to avoid hurting the feelings of others (wants to "be kind") and so pretends that being obese is just as healthy as being fit. Or other examples like when people want to blame your failures on immigrants or racism to be kind to you, rather than telling you that you have spent too much time scrolling on social media instead of making yourself more employable. My overall point (whether valid or not) is that I have become adverse to kindness in the business world because it seems to be the first step towards renouncing one's self-responsibility.