Archive • Confidence and Joy • Buttondown

Mapping Your Emotional Floorplan: A Comic by Erika Moen

February 11, 2025

Come Together is in paperback now!

Good Sex as Food for the Revolution

January 28, 2025

A guest post by Dr. Candice Nicole Hargons

Sex positive resources, according to you

January 17, 2025

As Sebastian the Crab says, “The human world, it’s a mess.” But there are shining lights of sex positivity and excellent information all over the internet!...

We're podcasting again

January 10, 2025

Time for the Feminist Survival Project 2025

“Joy Policing” Can Go F*** Itself

November 22, 2024

And we're podcasting again

Three Healthy Morning Habits

November 1, 2024

Tips from Amelia to help with burnout

Trust: It's a really big concept

October 23, 2024

PS: Emily is in Austin, TX tomorrow

Q&A: Living with Peyronie’s Disease

October 10, 2024

Plus: an important event this weekend

How did Emily wind up a sex educator?

September 24, 2024

PS: See you in Austin next month

About Those CDC Guidelines Around IUD Pain Management

August 29, 2024

I have some bad news, but there is a solution

Hey so about Project 2025

August 19, 2024

The "Orgasm Gap"

August 15, 2024

Has it closed at all in the last 30 years?

Part 2: Where does boredom live on the emotional floorplan?

And how does it relate to "seeking"?

Where does boredom live on the emotional floorplan?

A great question about Come Together

An Alternative to Hope

Or, The Secret Medicine for When the Thing With Feathers Stop Singing

Sexual incompatibility in long term couples

Robyn's back to tackle a big question

Q&A: Sex After a Cancer Diagnosis

Tips that apply to many kinds of health challenges

How do I talk about sex?

Great questions from Emily's book tour

The “Art!” Part of Lasting Sexual Connections

there's a bonus pixel Emily at the bottom of this post

The Permission Paradox

Inspired by the book "Polywise"

Sex and Orgasm Myth Questions from the BBC

I could name myths all day, literally

How to become a sex educator

My friend Robyn's perspective and path

Dating Apps, How Do They Work?

This was a common question on book tour, so I asked around

Q&A: Books and research for couples in long term relationships

February 15, 2024

Plus midwest tour dates!

What is "Emergent Love"?

February 1, 2024

Meet Sara Nasserzadeh, author of “Love by Design.”

“How Do I Fix It?”

January 29, 2024

Come Together is out tomorrow! Here's an exclusive excerpt.

What are some sex myths that should be dispelled for couples in long term relationships?

January 25, 2024

an excerpt from Emily's interview with Champ

In My Pajamas In the New York Times

January 19, 2024

They're *really* nice pajamas

I'm going on book tour!

January 5, 2024

And I just recorded an audiobook.

Come Together Q&A – January 24!

December 4, 2023

Free virtual event for U.S. pre-orders of Come Together

It's Giving Tuesday!

November 28, 2023

I'll send you goodies if you donate to Scarleteen this week

How to Foster Connection in a Long Distance Relationship

November 16, 2023

Spoiler: The first part applies to all relationships

So you want to become a sex educator

November 9, 2023

I didn’t plan any part of my career, so don’t worry if you don’t have a plan

Sex and Disability

November 2, 2023

You deserve a full and satisfying sex life

How does Come As You Are fit into a mental health library?

October 26, 2023

A letter from a small town fire chief

For the Newly Sexually Awakened

October 19, 2023

Books about embracing pleasure for everyone – including serious neuroscience nerds

When life’s complications get in the way of sex

October 12, 2023

It can even happen in new relationships

The Benefits of Ecstacy, According to You

August 24, 2023

Your responses helped me write my new book

My new book is available for pre-order!

August 17, 2023

Come Together is "Coming" Soon

Gender Magic by Rae McDaniel

An excerpt from an exciting new book

Society Is a Symphony

And that symphony needs more conductors

4 Relationship Lessons from Ted and Rebecca

My subject line is not a Ted Lasso spoiler, but there will be some in this email

What have Emily and Amelia been up to lately?

Podcasts, new books, and a puppy

Ask Amelia: Too burned out for a Burnout Workbook

What can you do today, if a book seems too daunting?

I Don’t Want to Talk about Joanne

February 22, 2023

…but I’ve been storming around my house, ranting about her inflammatory, ignorant bullshit for so long that my marital euphemism finally said, “Maybe you...

Can you answer 4 questions to help me finish my new book?

February 6, 2023

Try to say "Sexual Ecstasy Survey" three times fast

Coping Strategies

January 27, 2023

A free exercise from The Burnout Workbook

To Build Trust, Say the Nice Thing First

January 13, 2023

An important idea that didn't fit into my next book.

Burnout: You Don’t Have to Wait for the Revolution, to Feel Better

January 6, 2023

Also! We're coming to London.

Meditation and Burnout

December 14, 2022

Amelia Nagoski on practicing mindfulness