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Women's Orgasms During Intercourse

December 8, 2022

Or, one of the things I get asked about more than anything else

Dreaming and Nightmares: A Little Science For Exhausted Feminists

December 7, 2022

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"Why Do Couples Stop Having Sex?" Is the Wrong Question

December 7, 2022

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I’m Sorry You’re Lonely but It’s Not My Job to Help You: The Science of Incels

December 2, 2022

Plus a podcast and... a puppet??

Back to Substack!

November 23, 2022

Hi, I'm Emily. From the internet.

Q&A: Orgasm After Hysterectomy

October 25, 2022

You may need to relearn how to feel safe in your body

The Science of Saving Your Sex Life

October 20, 2022

To Maximize Your Potential, Maximize Pleasure

Q&A: How to Tell When a “Helpful” Suggestion Isn’t Actually Helping

October 11, 2022

You get to decide what ideas are a good fit for you.

What is Sexual Health?

October 4, 2022

Let's talk pleasure, my friends.

Q & A: Women Who Are More Sexual in Affairs

September 27, 2022

There are many reasons someone might feel this way.

Follow-Up: Ethical Porn Recommendations

September 22, 2022

The options have exploded, no pun intended.

Q & A: Orgasms While Sleeping

September 20, 2022

Orgasming while you sleep is normal – let's talk about why it happens.

The Clitoris in Your Head

September 15, 2022

Have you ever seen a cortical homunculus?

Homage to the Clitoris

September 13, 2022

It's where it's at!

September is Sexual Health Awareness Month

September 6, 2022

Let's talk about sex and tech 👾

Q&A: Should I Stop Watching Porn?

August 28, 2022

Questions you can ask yourself about your relationship with porn.

The DEFINITIVE ANSWER to the Question, “Does the G-Spot Exist?”

August 25, 2022

And how to explain it to someone who asks

Q&A: Sex and Attraction

August 18, 2022

The science of attraction isn't very sciencey

Even Before Birth Control, More Sex Does Not Equal More Pregnancies

August 16, 2022

Also: What was the typical frequency of sex among married women in the 1920s?

Q&A Amelia's Burnout Reading List

The books that helped her heal – including the one she doesn't usually talk about.

Despair… and Its Cure

They came to help because of Sadness

What is it you want when you want sex?

Q&A: How Much Should You Rest?

An explanation of the 42% rule in Burnout

What to do When You Misgender Someone

If you make a mistake, you can still learn and make the world a better place.

Reader Q&A: Reliable But Slow Orgasms

Don't sweat the "shoulds." Focus on your own experience of pleasure.

Nonbinary is So Normal

July 14 is National Non-binary People’s Day

Q&A: Sex and Aging Solo Sex Follow Up

If culture lacks a script for you, write your own.

Q&A: What's "Alexithymia"?

How to listen to your body and why it's important

Q&A: Moving Past Old Hurts in a Long-Term Relationship

Healing emotional injuries can help heal your sexual connection

Because We Have to Talk About “When Life Begins”

The fall of Roe is a bad, bad thing that bodes ill for the future of democracy in America

Autistic Pride Day

It’s like a sensory difference, but the sense I’m missing is not one that I’ve seen named anywhere.

Q&A: Using Exercise to Complete the Stress Response Cycle

How much activity is enough and when should you do it?

Q&A: Matching Your Partner's Sex Drive

It's actually about asking yourself what kind of sex is worth wanting

News! Podcasts! And Previews From Recent Premium Q&A Posts

Not to mention some really cute dog photos

Q&A: "Premature" Orgasm in Women

Is that even a thing?

Q&A: Working With Sexual Trauma

This question is from a guy, but it applies to everyone.

I truly, genuinely believe that every human is beautiful.

What 60 Years of Research Says About Women’s Masturbation

Celebrating National Masturbation Month with... Data

Q&A: Vaginal Dryness Even When You're Aroused

What if a person wants and likes what’s happening, but lubrication isn’t happening?

Trashing. 🗑🔥

What to do instead of joining the trashfire when you see it.

Premium Q&A: My Clitoris Isn't Joining the Party

Clitorises: They vary a lot

April is Autism Acceptance Month

This is my diagnosis story

Enthusiastic, Willing, Unwilling, Coerced

Consent, in the context of sex worth having

The worst adaptation of Pride and Prejudice, according to affective neuroscience

Some Reality About Consent and Consent Education

It’s still April, still Sexual Assault Awareness Month, and I’m still someone who loves prevention, so let’s talk about consent! Confidence and Joy is a...

How to Support a Survivor of Sexual Violence in 4 Difficult Sentences

April is Sexual Assault Awareness Month.

Is It Sexual Dysfunction or Asexuality?

Spoiler: Either way, you're not broken.

Q&A: More Information on Breath Orgasms

Orgasm is possible without physical touch

Q&A: Erectile Dysfunction Doesn't Have to Get in the Way of Pleasure

Try taking the pressure off! No pun intended.

Q & A: Is There a Connection Between Childbirth and Orgasm?

Experiences vary, to put it mildly