Sitting with success
How easy is it for you to give yourself a compliment without caveats? I searched my archives to see the last time I’d spoken about given yourself compliments...
What are your warning signs?
April is Stress Awareness Month in the UK, are you aware of your stress? I don’t think I know many people who aren’t fully aware of their stress given...
Trust and control
Collaboration means giving up some form of control, right? If you’re collaborating, you’re letting someone else in, exploring something in a participatory...
How do I show myself love?
Every new encounter presents a challenge to the counsellor’s ability to offer [them]selves as someone who is prepared to enter into relational depth and who...
Sitting with silence
I know the last few weeks have been patchy for newsletters, life has been a bit intense to be honest. I appreciate your patience and grace while I work...
Receiving feedback and self talk
When you receive feedback, what do you think? Who does the person giving you feedback remind you of? What do you want from them? What do you think they want...
I met my younger self
I meet my younger self often, I sit with her in therapy sessions. I listen to my teen self scream at me when I make a decision she thinks is too risky. I...
Free post: Rest as retoration
Once every few months, I pull the paywall off an older, pid post, both to give myself a break, but also to give you all what kind of thing you can get it you...
On Anxiety
I’ve been vacillating on what I want to write this week. That’s why this email is later than normal. This is partly because of gestures at the world but also...
Remember how far you've come
I saw this tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@taradefrancisco/video/7459977428161580331?_r=1&_t=ZG-8tDjl0ZUano For people who don’t want to go to tiktok, the...
Reframing as self-compassion
I wanted to share some questions I ask myself when I’m having trouble doing a task that I need to do at some point (especially if there’s a deadline), while...
What's the difference between therapy and a chat?
I want to put up here that I’m only training in person-centred therapy, and different modalities have different ways of working and practicing. When I say...
Making different choices
I want to talk about making the choice to do something differently. This reflection started during recovery from surgery, and it seems relevant given we’re...
A reflection
My holiday pack is here! This is a reworking version of my survivng the holidays during covid pack, and yoiu can find it over on the scb shop here:...
Surviving the holidays, part 1
Whether you celebrate the holidays or not, this time of year tends to make us want to reflect on the past year. The end of the calendar year, plus the longer...
Musings from surgery
I’m still not quite back to 100%, but here’s a lil thing to get me back into the writing habit. To be honest, I’ve got some fierce writer’s block at the...
Empathy for leadership
This post coincides with my talk at the Manchester Tech Festival Leadership day (which was on 4th November), and my latest podcast episode (released on 31st...
Is this a normal reaction?
TW mention of (potential) cancer. Take care of yourself. Here’s an issue I have: I’m aware that I sometimes react to things in an oversized way. I’m better...
I’m stuck in waiting mode.
Waiting mode is something that can come with neurodivergence, anxiety, depression, PTSD etc. It occurs when waiting for something to happen, normally an...
Resilience requires community
Thank you so much for being a paying supporter of the SCB newsletter <3 As I’ve mentioned previously, I’m currently undergoing some health issues that are...
