Curiosity
Curiosity is a surprisingly important tool in self care. We like to find things out as humans, and curiosity tends to come without the overtones of blame or...
Why I've been missing
I've been having trouble writing recently. This is partly because end of term has been slamming me. This course is intense, and we had a lot to do in the run...
Why I've been missing
I've been having trouble writing recently. This is partly because end of term has been slamming me. This course is intense, and we had a lot to do in the run...
Self-regulation
Apologies for missing a couple of weeks. The end of the school year has been kicked my arse a bit. I should be back to normal now. [On ‘ability to...
Self-sabotage
Every so often I remove the paywall from a paid post. This is to share pieces of writing I’m proud of, to advertise signing up for a paid sub, and finally,...
Potatoes part two
I have more things to say about potatoes (see last week’s newsletter for more context). I’ve been thinking about how growth looks different for everyone. I...
Potatoes, and being yourself
I went to see comedian/writer type person Robin Ince last night. I’ve been going to his shows for years and it’s always a good time. This show was both what...
On Acceptance
We cannot move away from what we are until we thoroughly accept what we are. Then change seems to come about almost unnoticed. Carl Rogers, On Becoming A...
Reflection as spending time
The thing about reflection is that it’s not really meant ot have a goal. Yes you may come to some conclusions or have a breakthrough, but that’s really a...
Planning as avoidance
Programming note: I’m moving the publish date of the newsletter back from Wednesdays to Thursdays. While I try to write newsletters in advance, Wednesdays...
Power of trusting in yourself
I have a little pile of books that live on my desk. They are a mix of a couple of books I need to move to somewhere else and I’ve not done that yet, a book I...
Self sabotage
Do you self sabotage? If you’d asked me a week ago I’d have told you that I used to, but not anymore. Someone in my counselling class was talking about self-...
What's bringing my joy this week
Trigger warning for transphobia for the first paragraph here. We’ve gone full mask off transphobia in the UK via a Supreme Court ruling that makes no sense,...
Sitting with success
How easy is it for you to give yourself a compliment without caveats? I searched my archives to see the last time I’d spoken about given yourself compliments...
What are your warning signs?
April is Stress Awareness Month in the UK, are you aware of your stress? I don’t think I know many people who aren’t fully aware of their stress given...
Trust and control
Collaboration means giving up some form of control, right? If you’re collaborating, you’re letting someone else in, exploring something in a participatory...
How do I show myself love?
Every new encounter presents a challenge to the counsellor’s ability to offer [them]selves as someone who is prepared to enter into relational depth and who...
Sitting with silence
I know the last few weeks have been patchy for newsletters, life has been a bit intense to be honest. I appreciate your patience and grace while I work...
Receiving feedback and self talk
When you receive feedback, what do you think? Who does the person giving you feedback remind you of? What do you want from them? What do you think they want...
I met my younger self
I meet my younger self often, I sit with her in therapy sessions. I listen to my teen self scream at me when I make a decision she thinks is too risky. I...
