Remember how far you've come
I saw this tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@taradefrancisco/video/7459977428161580331?_r=1&_t=ZG-8tDjl0ZUano For people who don’t want to go to tiktok, the...
Reframing as self-compassion
I wanted to share some questions I ask myself when I’m having trouble doing a task that I need to do at some point (especially if there’s a deadline), while...
What's the difference between therapy and a chat?
I want to put up here that I’m only training in person-centred therapy, and different modalities have different ways of working and practicing. When I say...
Making different choices
I want to talk about making the choice to do something differently. This reflection started during recovery from surgery, and it seems relevant given we’re...
A reflection
My holiday pack is here! This is a reworking version of my survivng the holidays during covid pack, and yoiu can find it over on the scb shop here:...
Surviving the holidays, part 1
Whether you celebrate the holidays or not, this time of year tends to make us want to reflect on the past year. The end of the calendar year, plus the longer...
Musings from surgery
I’m still not quite back to 100%, but here’s a lil thing to get me back into the writing habit. To be honest, I’ve got some fierce writer’s block at the...
Empathy for leadership
This post coincides with my talk at the Manchester Tech Festival Leadership day (which was on 4th November), and my latest podcast episode (released on 31st...
Is this a normal reaction?
TW mention of (potential) cancer. Take care of yourself. Here’s an issue I have: I’m aware that I sometimes react to things in an oversized way. I’m better...
I’m stuck in waiting mode.
Waiting mode is something that can come with neurodivergence, anxiety, depression, PTSD etc. It occurs when waiting for something to happen, normally an...
Resilience requires community
Thank you so much for being a paying supporter of the SCB newsletter <3 As I’ve mentioned previously, I’m currently undergoing some health issues that are...
Free peek: Resilience requires boundaries
Every couple of months I remove the paywall from a post to give my readers a peek behind the curtain, to see the kind of writing you can get weekly if you...
Intellectualising Your Feelings
Just because you’re aware of your patterns, doesn’t mean you can defeat them. This is one of those posts where I have multiple different points I want to...
I don’t want to pay someone to just agree with me
Programming note: I am dealing with some health stuff that will be fine, but is affecting my fatigue levels while I’m going through the tests and everything...
Learning from your successes
Programming note: I am dealing with some health stuff that will be fine, but is affecting my fatigue levels while I’m going through the tests and everything...
Reflection on therapy training
This is a free post, so feel free to forward or share it to folks who might find it useful. This newsletter is entirely reader-supported. You can upgrade to...
Self care for redundancy and job searching
I've been asked a couple of times about resources for dealing with redundancy, or if I have any tips. I always struggle with this, because all the self care...
Manifestation as planning
Some of you will know I'm a lil witchy (I offer tarot pulls as part of my coaching, for example). While I am broadly a sceptic, I basically use tarot and...
What have you thought about and discarded?
I was once having trouble at work. I was working at the intersection of multiple teams and trying to figure out interfacing, continuity, and confidence as...
Resilience requires boundaries
I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again: boundaries are an integral part of resilience. I think people see emotional and mental resilience still as...
