On being triggered

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Self care has to be deliberate. If it’s not then you’re not fully embedded in the process. That doesn’t mean you need to be thinking ‘I am going to do self care by doing this specific thing’. It’s more like being present in the activity itself.

It’s reflecting on what’s working and what’s not. It’s being present in the joy or care that the activity brings.

I got triggered recently by something, and had to wait almost a week to resolve it. This meant I was really anxious for most of a week, in and out of rumination and flashbacks. It’s been a long time since I’ve been in a situation like that, and it flagged a trigger that I’ve not had to think about in a long time (me making a mistake and having people be angry and inconvenienced by me), so I hadn’t worked on it.