On Acceptance
We cannot move away from what we are until we thoroughly accept what we are. Then change seems to come about almost unnoticed.
Carl Rogers, On Becoming A Person
Sometimes change is noticing something isn’t quite how you’d like it, and then moving towards how you’d like it to be. Like painting a wall or changing a carpet. Work, and takes time, but relatively simple. Notice what isn’t working, change it for something that does, once you’ve figured out what that something is.
Sometimes it’s more like taking up a carpet, realising you’ve got original hardwood floor, and doing a cleaning and restoration job. More work, more supplies needed, more time.
Sometimes it’s pulling up a carpet and realising the floor is rotting and you’ve got to replace it.
Sometimes change happens without noticing it, or maybe until it’s tested. Like figuring out a cleaning routine that works for you, and fits into your life, and only really realising that you’ve kept on top of housework when you’ve invited someone round and you don’t need to panic clean. It’s not that you’ve not put in the work, it’s more that the change isn’t a dramatic thing that happened in one go. It’s a series of small changes, or habits chained together.
