Giving In vs Giving Permission
Sometimes wew need permission to rest, even if it feels like giving in to our feelings
It’s another snippet of my book!
This section is on something close to my heart, and that is the question of being kind to yourself vs. ‘giving in’ to your feelings.
The scenario: you’ve got plans tonight. A social gathering (in real life or on zoom). The evening will be full of friends and fun. You’re really not in the mood. You’re tired and a bit sad, or anxious. Generally grotty but not incapable of doing things. ‘Cancel’, your brain says. You start weighing up the pros and cons, the effort vs reward. Maybe you mentally berate yourself for being flakey, or maybe your brain viciously talks about how the night will be better without you and it’s not like you’ll be missed anyway.
By the time you need to get dressed or get ready to dial in or leave you’ve managed to tire yourself and you feel even worse, and you still haven’t decided if you’re going or not.