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Repenting in the Group Chat: How I Came Out as Straight to My Friends

It started with a meme. Just a simple SpongeBob reaction gif — tasteful, even. But as I hovered over the “send” button, something in my spirit hesitated. Was...

When Your Gay Thoughts are Just Demons with Jazz Hands

For years, I thought I was struggling with my identity. Turns out, I was just hosting a one-man Broadway show… in my soul. It started subtly — humming Wicked...

No Homo, No Problem: How I Replaced My Need for Male Validation

It started innocently enough. A compliment here, a bicep flex there. I told myself I was just appreciating the male form, the way ancient Greeks did —...

Why All My Exes Were Actually Tests From God

For most of my adult life, I thought I was just “unlucky in love.” But after my fifth breakup, I started to realize something deeper was at work. It wasn’t...

“I Reclaimed My Masculinity… with a Truck, a Beard, and No Skincare” Why moisturizer is a slippery slope.

For years, I lived in darkness. Not the cool, brooding kind — the glowing, poreless, glass-skin kind. I was exfoliating. I was using serums. At one point, I...