282 - letter to 3️⃣3️⃣
i just write letters now
Hey there, Future Vince!
Happy birthday turning 33! Or maybe you're reading this a week or two before your birthday (like you did this year) so you're actually still 32 about to turn 33, and then confusing a bunch of your readers about what age you're turning (32) and what age you're going to be turning (33).
Makes sense to me :D
Anyway - this time around this letter maybe a little less structured - the plans are not super planned for this year, and it's more of a set up year (?) or like...reaping the rewards of previous decisions. Or punishments. Unsure at the moment.
I think the key theme I hope you've had is enjoyment and satisfaction in the year. One thing a lot of the previous years had was hope, and potential - holding out for the fact that life might turn a sharp corner and turn into something that we expected for such a long time. And since it hasn't, what I hope by the time we're 33 is that the year has been a good one. Maybe we've worked it all out, maybe we haven't, but that's not the goal. I think it's coming to terms with a new kind of life, and being present with the experience of life.
Whether it changes anything in terms of the year...well, an 8.5 (the year of 31) is pretty hard to beat - my prediction is that it'll be a 7.5 or 8 (optimistically!) since you're not leaving your job or gallivanting around Europe. At least...you haven't planned to! Maybe it'll be the South Africa trip? Anyway...
💼 It's an exciting year ahead for work - it's very likely there'll be downs, and then ups. And then more ups? Hopefully on average it's more ups than downs. We're surrounded by such good people trying to build some interesting stuff for a new generation of wealth...maybe it'll help us get there too? Lots of hope tbh - time to get some runs on the board.
💏Speaking about runs on the board, you better have fuckin' finished your celebrancy course by next year. LEGIT you should have married at least one couple by this time next year because by god this course is already so damn long. At this time, you'gve got 9 more to go, and you've got a plan to get it all done within the next 3 months BARRING any more delays...the next few seem hard but all we gotta do is get to the marraiges and hopefully we'll get on to the home straight. How many have you done??? HOW DID THEY GO I'm so excited for you.
🏡🐈⬛ The home, the cat - all of it should still be where you last left 'em. House is to be lived in, to be settled in, to be continuously and slowly improved. Projects now outstanding:
- new blinds for the kitchen
- gallery wall for all the prints - you have at least 8 now, so it's time to get going on that wall!
- I reckon it's probably a good idea to set up one of the rooms as an actual spare bedroom, which means you gotta get rid of a bunch of the JUNK in each of the rooms. It's not even that hard - you just procrastinating it and distracting yourself with all the social calendar shit you damn extrovert. Move the 3d printer into the office, set up the front room as a bedroom by getting rid of all the junk, and go from there (!!)
- reset the living room with new spaces and chucking out some of the old tables and cabinets finally. Room's getting a bit crowded, but that's okay - chip at it a little bit at a time. Habits, not motivation. (though, motivation is so much easier when there's someone else around D:)
- as a note for next year - Gandalf has started sleeping face-first into the duvet / blanket which is extremely cute but he still be breathing so no worries. He's being a bit cheeky at night these days for food - making the noises and pushing stuff off tables, but he's handsome so he gets a pass.
❤️ Maybe it's happened, maybe it hasn't, but honestly, just enjoying life is enough. I mean, life is hard enough as it is, even without this part that you hoped for so long, and you got so many great friends. Being happy with yourself is hard, but remember that the grass ain't greener on the other side, it's just a different shade. If it's not part of this life, maybe it's cos you had such a great one in a past life, or a future one. I wonder how many more people you'll meet this year - have any become special? Did any of them give you a new way to see and experience the world? Did any set your soul ablaze? Here's to hoping.
✍️ Now I know you ain't gonna be abandoning this newsletter, but what else are you doing? I kinda hope you get even better at 3d modeling so you can make more customised stuff. You were able to get all the dinner parties you wanted this year, and we definitely been cookin' - hope this gets better and better. More conscious fashion / styling choices is a new thing I guess - don't know if it's gonna be a hobby but maybe you'll be a much more stylish man by next year. Another sport? Woodworking? Watches? Cocktails? I think it's time to get into more active, building-with-hands activities so you ain't going from medium screen to large screen and small screen every night :D Join a class, go meet other people.
💵 Make more money, I guess. Get rich. I mean, yes, the money, but also the freedom to have experiences that it gives you because once it doesn't hurt to do the things you wanna do, the world polishes itself into a pearl for you. We know that big dreams are impractical, but little joys make up for it as they snowball into a whole big cushy life that you get to live - and it doesn't matter if you're a millionaire when you're dead. Use your time wisely, yeah, maybe that's the better way to express this.
💭 I mean, to be honest, at the moment, it's all cherries and fireworks. Life is going well: it's sweet, it's salty, it's umami, it's not super sour, and I can't remember the last tastebud type but it ain't much of that one either. There's not much that you're wanting for, other than perhaps companionship, but Gandalf is there for all the cuddles you need. There's a whole bunch of stuff in the house that is essentially unrealised potential - books to be read, art to be hung, junk to be thrown out - a lot of work for the upkeep that requires more habits to get done. Today, the day you're writing this, was a well-planned, well-executed day of chores, DND, writing, celebrancy - all of it wrapped up in an efficient day. Try and have more of them, yeah?
🏥 Hope you, the fam, our friends, and Gandalf are all doing so so so well - happy, healthy, enjoying life!! There's nothing better than that ❤️
Happy birthday again Vince :)
PS. Sorry - this became a bit preachy advice-y kinda shit but it's your hopes from turning 32. Go get 'em boyo.
📋Today's Question
✔️Real Life Recommendations
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St Alberts Pizza - sourdough pizza joint in Mont Albert that I never knew about but friends have moved close by so now I know about them. Toppings are delicious, price is generous, free donuts if you order over a certain amount also be slappin'. Great find and highly recommended!
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Beetlejuice - I think it's better if you go in without knowing anything, like I did. It's wacky, it's wonderfully weird, and super fun. It reminded me of Rocky Horror meets a Nightmare before Christmas meets...er...Book of Mormon? Just a fun, raucous romp of a story. Recommended :D
🚌 Adventures on the Information Super-Highway
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how to cheat at settlers by loading the dice - lowkey it's just soaking one side of the wooden dice in water overnight, but it seems like it had a slight impact on the probabilities - enough for it to be 'loaded'! I have also seen some 3d printed ones that are loaded too - look out y'all!
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The burnt-out millennials who walked away from work - a great article I read recently by Annie Louey (yes, that comedian!) who wrote about burnout of the millennial generation. Very interesting stories and persepective. Something I wanna write about soon too :)
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The Most Valuable Commodity In The World Is Friction - another great article that is feeding into the same article I wanna write above; something about life being spectrums or pendulums that you should always try to point towards the centre for. Friction isn't 'good' or 'bad' or something we have to always try and get out of the way; it's actual purpose, if used correctly, is to focus our attention on things that are hard or require thinking.