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March 17, 2023

The boy in the poster

no longer exists

He's hard to write about, my dad. He doesn't really fit into any neat and tidy boxes. When I read Educated by Tara Westover, I was stunned. It was the first time I'd ever read anything that came close to describing my father. Tara's dad is an unrefined, unpolished version of mine. Her father swears and slams doors, he uses poor grammar, and doesn't care if his children wash their hands after they use the bathroom. He is someone my father would have befriended and attempted to mentor because they see eye to eye on conspiracy theories, distrust the government, and are obsessed with the End Times (second coming of Jesus, armageddon, Last Days, End of Days, etc). Both my dad and Tara's took a path through Mormonism that resulted in our being raised in sort of a cult within a cult. Our fathers functioned under the larger umbrella of mainstream Mormonism; they believed in and sustained the Prophet and the General Authorities. They studied the standard works and taught their families from these books. But they also dove deep into what my dad called 'the shrinking gospel.'

Welcome to the land behind the paywall! I'm delighted (and a little gobsmacked) that you're here. Thank you.

My parents were babies when they got married in 1975. My mom just 19; my dad fresh off his two-year proselytizing mission for the Mormon church at 21. They had me, a bicentennial baby with a red, white, and blue birth certificate, a year later.

The church was more outspoken against birth control in those days, issuing this statement) in 1969:

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