I might feel called to define what a “late bloomer” actually is! I mean, it’s the whole premise of this newsletter!

The definition may vary, but my definition of this commonly used phrase is: “A person who finds their meaning, purpose, or happiness later in life. Typically, later than their peers, and with hardships in their way to get to what they want.”

What do you think about when hearing this? Are you a late bloomer too, or are you just curious about the topic? I think people can be early bloomers in some aspects and late bloomers in others, though. It’s not an either/or thing!

My own story - a summary of thoughts!

I must say, I’m not severely late to the party, but I did bloom later in life. One aspect of that is that my education was quite delayed due to a lack of disability support. So the reason was outside of my control, even though it impacted my life heavily.

Due to mental health issues and trauma, I also had to work on myself when others were busy just living a teenage life. I was hospitalised and suicidal. I was traumatized and self-harming, and I went to intense therapy. This caused me to bloom later as well, because I never had the regular teenage years. I tried drinking alcohol and meeting new people in my 20s. I finished school in my late 20s. Others settled down and built families, and I had to wait until my 30s before I could even dream of anything like that.

The benefits of blooming late

Sometimes we only talk about the negatives. But what are the actual benefits of blooming a bit later?

The first reason of being grateful for a late bloomer is that they maybe know stronger what they want as a result of waiting for so long. So it’s not just a roundabout of testing and testing, but rather a clear vision - en if it’s out of reach for a time! I tend to believe (even though it may vary) that late bloomers are wiser than (some) early bloomers just because they have survived what life throws at them! And with wisdom comes choosing the most correct path for you! You have - after all - had more time to think!

Surviving can be paradoxical in theory

I have survived a lot. Some days I think my survival has made me stronger because the universe (or God, if you prefer) never gives us more than we can handle. Trauma is not for the “weak”. That’s why some people never experience severe trauma - they aren’t built for it.

But sometimes I see it more as a curse and what’s not killing me, traumatizes me and makes me severely mentally unstable instead. I won’t every be the one to be toxically positive, but I will be the one who says two things can be true at the same time! Both these statements can be equally true and at the very same time!

Ending thoughts

Do you believe some things are meant to be and some things aren’t? Like a mixed bag? I do believe that. I believe somethings are totally useless but unfortunately happened, but some things might be my destiny. I’m not in any of the extreme ends.

However, being a late bloomer was my destiny and now I can see the good in it, finally…

Much Love,

Trix

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