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February 18, 2025

The moving letter

Fact: My son turned 10. 

Fact: We had to move. Again. 

Fact: Fourth time in four years. 

Statistical probability of another move within 12 months: Hopefully 0.

The landlords told us they wouldn't be renewing our lease and would be letting it slip month-to-month in order to get us out by the summer. We decided to move fast to get a winter deal so Shelby saw a house, loved it and applied for it in the car outside. (I moved in blindly…)

Time given to pack up a life: 20 days. 

Time Shelby spent in New York: 14 days (preplanned brunch)

Number of boxes packed during those 14 days: Fewer than anticipated 

Number of times I googled "tenant rights Seattle": 37 

It's said moving is one of life's major stressors. What about moving four times? What about moving four times with a child? What about moving four times with a child while your partner is in New York? 

Weather report: Seattle, damp, cold, beautiful at night. 

Mental state: Remarkably resilient. 

Things I meant to write about turning 10:

  • What a decade of parenting looks like to me

  • How smart and kind he is

  • His obsession with pushups

  • The ways he has grown and changed me

Things I actually wrote:

  • Change of address forms

  • Claude prompts about security deposits

  • Rental application

  • Boxes labeled "FRAGILE"

But the new place: Better. 

Plot twist: Sometimes better finds you despite circumstances. 

Secondary plot twist: Having a basement rules. 

Reminder: Own less things. 

Second reminder: Write something about Gaël turning 10. 

Third reminder: It's okay that you didn't. 

Fourth reminder: The statute of limitations on birthday letters is infinite. 

Things that moved with us:

  • Board games

  • My rainbow colored hammock

  • That one box we never unpacked (electronics

  • Our ability to start over

  • The hope that this time it's for a while

Things that didn't:

  • The lack of insulation

  • My faith in Seattle landlords

  • The idea that stability requires stillness

Current status: 

Location: New house 

Boxes unpacked: Some 

Birthday letter: Pending 

Son: Growing 

Heart: Full 

Lease: Signed 

Future: Unwritten

Note to self: Sometimes the best stories are the ones we live instead of write. 

Note to Gael: you’ll get that letter you deserve. 

Note to Seattle landlords: [REDACTED]

Cowabunga dude,

DJ

P.S. The new place really is the best one yet, come see it if you can 


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