Day Seventeen: The unholy holy.
People will let you down.
It’s not a matter of if, it’s when. And you’ll let them down, too.
Not because you're heartless. Not because they’re careless. But, because we’re human. And, no matter how hard we try, we miscommunicate, we get tired, we say the wrong thing at the worst moment, we stay quiet when we should speak up.
The myth is that love lives in the quote-unquote after. After the apology. After therapy. After the miracle. After everything is stable and healthy and tied up with a bow.
But, that’s not how life works.
Love is built in the mess. It’s forged in the fire of misunderstandings, unmet expectations, and painful disappointments. Not when it’s all fixed. But, while it’s still raw.
You don’t need perfect people. You don’t need polished words and flawless timing and emotional mastery.
Nope.
You need people who show up when it’s uncomfortable. People who will sit with you when you’re not making sense. People who aren’t afraid to say “I screwed up” and still make dinner. People who keep coming back, not because it’s easy, but because you matter.
Presence matters more than perfection.
That’s where love grows. Not on the cleaned-up side of life. But, right in the middle of the ugly cry, the hard conversation, the silent drive home after the argument. That’s where the real thing takes root.
So yeah, you’ll let people down. They’ll let you down, too.
But, if you can keep showing up anyway? That’s the beginning of something holy.
Mantra \ Prayer:
Help me embrace the unholy and holy in others today.
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Steve Knox | Carmel, CA