Day Eighteen: Becoming a good friend.
It’s easy to talk about the kind of friends we want.
Much harder to talk about the kind we’re becoming.
We want people who are loyal. Who stick around when things fall apart. Who listen when we’re messy. Who don’t run when we screw it up. Who hold space when we barely make sense.
But if we want those people in our lives, we have to ask the harder question:
Am I becoming that kind of person for someone else?
Because love doesn’t just ask, “Who’s showing up for me?” It also asks, “Who am I showing up for?”
Not when it’s convenient.
Not when it’s neat.
But, right in the chaos, when it costs us something.
We get to be the one who doesn’t need the story to be tidy before we enter it.
We get to be the one who calls just because.
Who stays when it’s uncomfortable.
Who says, “It’s okay, I’ve been there too,”
even when the words feel fragile and unsure.
Who sits with them through the fog, without rushing them into clarity.
Here’s the skinny, amigo:
You don’t need all the answers.
You don’t need a roadmap.
You don’t need to have it all figured out.
You just need to be willing to show up with your heart open.
Available. Steady. Real.
That’s how trust is built.
That’s how love grows. not from flawless timing or polished words, but from presence. Patience. Courage to stay.
The small, unseen faithfulness of just being there. So let’s not just hope for those kinds of friends. Let’s become them.
Let’s be the ones who return the call, who remember the promise we made, who don’t need fixing to stay close.
Let’s become the kind of friend we need, too.
Mantra \ Prayer:
May I be present and aware with my friends in need.
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Steve Knox | Carmel, CA