Late summer's last burst
If my book were a season, it would be this one
My essay collection has been out for a half year now!
It means so much to me that people have read it. I’ve been really touched by the reflections I’ve received. Many of you said it felt like I was right there with you, by your side.
Best of all is seeing the book weathered and held in people’s hands, or resting in a pile of other books, in good company. The photo above is a mix of both.
Please keep sending me your favorite parts.
Some people have told me that they want to read the book, but fear it will be too heavy for them. I’d just like to express that I understand that very well.
Many have said that they needed to read it slowly. I hoped that since the book is small with short episodes, you can pick it up and put it down with more ease.
I hear about that fear of weight and overwhelm often when I first meet someone for death and grief care. And then once the occasion is created to talk about it, the fear starts to soften. When death and grief is somehow accepted enough to be faced – often pushed by the forces of reality –, many more options become available to us about how to be with the pain and uncertainty that it brings.
In sum, that’s what the book is about. It’s not a how-to or an easy answer, but more like a reassuring place to visit. A house museum with different rooms furnished with intimate encounters. There’s a supportive presence to be felt in each one. There’s some inner-knowing that it’s going to be okay, somehow, because you aren’t alone. Traces of perfume still emanate.
To those who read my book, thank you. To those who haven’t but want to, my door is open and you will always be welcome here.
With love and in solidarity,
Staci
Thoughts about the book from a few people I dearly respect:
Further reading
Good Grief asked me some questions after reading my book and I'm grateful for the chance to say more about it.
You can read the interview here: On Communal or Community-Led Death Care: An Interview with Staci Bu Shea.
I’m here if you need support
The book is only one expression of my deathcare. My holistic practice is centered in service and collaboration through death midwifery and advance planning, contemplative care for death awareness, and grief companionship. Book a free discovery call and we can see if I am able to help. Your situation and story matters to me.
My summer offerings include the series Reconnect: care for long grief and the solidarity practice Qigong for grief and rage. Learn more about both here.
For the past three years, my practice has mostly grown through word of mouth within art, culture, and activist communities based in the Netherlands and abroad. I’m really grateful to contribute to our personal and collective care in this way. If someone visits me through your referral, I would like to offer you a free session.
Many blessings to you all this late summer. I wish you balance and nourishment in the weeks ahead.