Reflection #31 Leisure and Contentment
The Gap Year: Reflection #31 Leisure and Contentment
—Patricia D. Brown
“May you go forward securely, joyfully, and swiftly on the path of prudent happiness.” --Clare of Assisi
I am content in this moment of life. I no longer need to be doing something at all times as I was before. The race uphill is over. Now I stroll calmly, which has turned out to be a delightful environment for writing. I’m learning that leisure can be fertile ground for creativity. I write for the pleasure it brings to me. I enjoy the process without thinking about the end results. I write about what I can write about, in my rhythm.
Being creatively useful, without feeling the expectations or ambitions of others, means we have to be self-aware. To risk being and doing less than others expect is one of the greatest risks we can take. It means letting go of our expectations and shedding our previous persona as we focus on who we are now. Our attention can be easily grabbed by excitement and drama, and we may not notice contentment’s whisper. Contentment is the keystone to a happy life. To say, “This is good. This is enough.” To stop pretending, faking it, lamenting, and flagellating yourself. To love yourself and others without calculating how much they love you in return.
I relish this splendid moment in my life. I think life gets easier once we who are women get through menopause and, for both men and women, are done raising children. I find further happiness as I keep my expectations in check, give up resentment, and relax in the knowledge that only those closest to me give a damn about who I am and what I do. It is important to recognize the contentment that leads to happiness.
I’ve chosen a simpler life. I’ve shed belongings to have more leisure, fewer social commitments for more time with friends I enjoy. I’m learning to say no to invitations without feeling guilty. I have the freedom that many women do not have because I have the home, partner, and funds necessary. I don’t take my good fortune for granted. I say, “This is good. This is enough.”
Now it’s your turn.
Take time to reflect and if in a group, share as you feel able.
I am choosing a simpler life by:
a) being creatively useful without feeling the expectations or ambitions of others.
b) letting go of expectations and shedding my previous persona.
c) saying no to invitations without feeling guilty.
d) risking being and doing less than others expect.