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Hi friend,

Today is the winter solstice — the longest night of the year — and I just wanted to pause and say thank you for being here.

This year has been full in ways I expected and mostly in ways I could never have seen coming. Writing this newsletter every week for the last several months, thinking out loud about conflict, power, repair, and relational life — it’s been buoyed and deepened by knowing you’re on the other side of it — reading, responding, exploring it alongside me.

As the year winds down, I wanted to share a small roundup, a few pieces that trace the arc of my thinking this year — from naming the polycrisis moment we shifted deeper into, to practicing discernment inside it.

a year of essays

• ✍🏽 This Moment — Grounding us in the reality of early 2025, and a few practices to return to.
• ✍🏽 From Shame to Integrity — On accountability, harm, and what it means to move without collapsing into either punishment or avoidance.
• ✍🏽 How to Tell the Difference: A Practice of Discernment — The one that’s most resonated with folks this fall: how do we know if our thing is bad enough?​

conversations & interviews

• 🎧 How to Hold it All, on Off the Grid — weaving our experiences of grief, witnessing, conflict, rest, deep sorrow, and profound joy
• 🎧 Untangling from Patriarchy, on the Rooted Podcast — finding the courage it takes to stay present in conversations that challenge us
• 🎧 Moving Towards Conflict, on Aggressively Human — navigating rupture, tension, and transformation

In the weeks ahead, I’ll be moving a little more slowly, a little more intentionally — including opening the doors to our inaugural Reading Room on the first full moon of the new year — starting with a public study of Audre Lorde’s “Uses of the Erotic.” If that feels like a nourishing way to begin January, I’d love to see you there.

For now: wishing you a nourishment and ease on this darkest night. May this turning of the year bring you rest, warmth, and just enough light to keep going.

with care,

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