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The Option You Didn’t Know You Had

November 25, 2025

The Option You Didn’t Know You Had I was 19 when I discovered Thanksgiving didn't have to be turkey. My friend's Italian family served pasta, meatballs,...

Clear Before You Build

November 18, 2025

Clear Before You Build The other day, I was digging through my supplement cabinet at 6 AM, making a sound very similar to an angry Charlie Brown. I couldn't...

That's Not My Job

November 11, 2025

That's Not My Job A coworker saw me sorting trash out of recycling bins in the hallway and asked what I was doing. I told her I was helping out our recycling...

Waste Your Time (On Purpose)

November 4, 2025

Waste Your Time (On Purpose) Why high-performers miss the moments that actually matter Last weekend, we spent two hours in the cold watching Miller collect...

Making Decisions While the Ground Shifts Beneath You

October 28, 2025

Making Decisions While the Ground Shifts Beneath You Why waiting for certainty keeps you stuck Change is the only constant in life. When you figure out that...

When Setbacks Stop Setting You Back

October 21, 2025

When Setbacks Stop Setting You Back I got rear-ended on the highway Thursday morning. Had to wait for police. Had to deal with insurance. It made me late to...

Comfortably Miserable: When Familiar Pain Feels Safer Than Unknown Joy

October 14, 2025

Comfortably Miserable: When Familiar Pain Feels Safer Than Unknown Joy Why most people choose unhappiness over uncertainty I heard this saying on a podcast:...

Can You Elaborate?

October 7, 2025

Can You Elaborate? The permission you're waiting for doesn't exist The other day, I talked to my Intro to Business students about one of the most important...

The Hidden Cost of Unearned Comfort

September 30, 2025

The Hidden Cost of Unearned Comfort Why struggle builds character, and shortcuts build dependency Comfort is a deadly drug. But unearned comfort is...

Why You Feel Stuck (It's Simpler Than You Think)

September 23, 2025

Why You Feel Stuck (It's Simpler Than You Think) The role of growth and value in our lives. I started my teaching career in math out of necessity. Business...

My Extraordinary Birthday

September 21, 2025

My Extraordinary Birthday The gratitude shift that changes everything Yesterday was my 41st birthday. By most standards, the weekend was completely...

Trapped by Your Own Success

September 16, 2025

Trapped by Your Own Success Why the hardest working people often stay stuck in the same place I spent weeks perfecting candle scents and tweaking logo...

"Now What?" The Moment That Paralyzes High Achievers

September 9, 2025

"Now What?" The Moment That Paralyzes High Achievers Why successful people drift through decisions and what to do about it I just finished my second master's...

Joy is a Moving Target

September 2, 2025

Joy is a Moving Target Why I’m successful on paper but still feel like a failure. I landed my dream job in Aurora, Colorado. It was an amazing high school...

The Traffic Jam That Changed My Perspective

August 31, 2025

The Traffic Jam That Changed My Perspective What my 3-year-old taught me about what actually matters The other day, I got stuck in traffic on the way to...

No One Is Coming to Save You (And Why That's Actually Good News)

August 24, 2025

The hidden programming that keeps smart adults waiting for rescue My three-year-old had his first sleepover last night. This morning, I watched him and his...

A different book is coming (and why that matters)

August 23, 2025

Hey dreamers, Last winter, I told you I was writing a novel. That's still true; it's sitting in a folder, waiting for the right time. But something else...

Some Dreams Never Fade...

March 10, 2025

Hey dreamers, This is the first issue of the Enter Somnus newsletter, and if you’re here, it means you’re as fascinated by dreams as I am. Since I was a kid,...