How Do You Move Forward?
Fridays on the ol’ Bluesky, I open up the account to random questions. One such question gave me pause. Anonymously, someone asked me “How do you continue to move forward in your transition in such a scary timeline? I need to keep going myself but I'm so so scared.”
Here was my response, just in case you reading this had concerns along the same lines:
It has always been scary to be a trans person. We had a few years where it was easier—though not for everyone—but even then, we were just safer, not safe. It is it very scary now, but it is less scary than it was 20 years ago or 200 years ago.
We have always existed in scary times. We have always existed because we have a strength that comes from self determination. We know who we are. We had to buy that knowledge with pain and loss and grief, but we paid it and we keep paying it, each and every one of us. Because it's worth it.
YOU are strong. I know you are strong because to took the first step. So many people don't. You can continue on this journey because you've already done the hardest part. That took bravery, that took strength, that a level of compassion for yourself that you cannot lose now.
Your life will not be easier if you stop your transition. You may make your life easier for others. But that is not the same thing as it being easy for you, despite what some cis people would like us to believe. You have to be kind to yourself, and give yourself the life you know you deserve.
I wish I could tell you it gets easier, but there's no guarantee of that. What I can guarantee is that if you stop now, if you deny who you are, you will regret it for the for rest of your life.
You and I have tasted the fruit of the Tree of Knowledge. We know who we are. And that fruit is inside of us now. It won't go away just because it was hard to swallow. We can let it rot and fester within us, or we can allow it to take root and blossom through our bodies and lives.
I keep going forward because I can't go back.
Speaking of moving forward, you may have noticed there was no newsletter last week, which means you get 2 pages of Scoesby Cuts a Rug this week. Enjoy pages 5 and 6 with my compliments. In a sort of happy accident, I do together as a peice. Page 7 is already on the Patreon.
