It's a common urge: when a friend or colleague is struggling, we want to help. And for many of us, helping means offering solutions. We jump in with our advice, our opinions, and our own experiences.

But what if our well-intentioned advice is getting in the way?

When we rush to give an answer, we can unintentionally signal that we don't trust them to find their own. We might be talking when they just need someone to listen. We might be giving an answer when they need to explore their own questions. We might be imposing our map on their unique territory.

What if we practiced mindful encouragement instead?

It starts with a pause.

When we feel that strong urge to say, "You should...", we can just notice it. And then, instead of speaking, we can choose to listen more deeply.

Instead of offering our solution, we can ask a question that helps them find theirs.

For example:

• "That sounds really challenging. What are your thoughts on it?"

This approach shifts us from a reactive 'fixer' to a responsive 'encourager.' It creates space for their own wisdom to emerge and fosters a deeper, more respectful connection.

What's one conversation this week where you could practice listening just a little longer, and ask one more question before offering a solution?

Listening,
/rajesh