New post on mariayang.org: Mental Habits. 🤔
Mental Habits.
We got on the topic of nightclubs.
“I’ve never been to that nightclub,” I said.
“Yeah, I’ve never seen you there,” The Person replied, before adding, without any malice, “… you seem like you’d go to the Wildrose.”
I couldn’t help but laugh. That allowed the moment to pass, a question to leave unanswered.
The Wildrose is a lesbian bar in Seattle. (It’s apparently the oldest lesbian bar in the US.)
The Person’s error wasn’t about my sexual preferences; it was that they thought I go to nightclubs!â€
What impression do you have of The Person?
Would your impression change if The Person is:
a man?
a woman?
the teenage child of a friend?
a stranger over the age of 70?
a white person? a non-white person?
a straight person? a queer person?
my boss?
As much as we try, we can never really get away from ourselves. We all think we view the world through relatively impartial lenses. Then we encounter people and situations that trigger our mental habits.
Like viewing the world and the people in it through the lens of sexual preferences.
Or believing that blog posts are only worthwhile if they resemble articles.
†Long-time readers know my opinions about dancing.