dignity condition and brain wiring
Pa'lante is Spanish slang for ‘forward’ Back in 1990, when I first started taking anti-depressants, talking about clinical depression and meds outside of a...
playlists and padded shorts
Literal leopard print It’s been so long since I wrote anything, I’m guessing this will end up in your junk mail. Excuse #1 Two weeks of planning — and then...
generational change, and links
DC azaleas are going crazy right now A couple weeks ago I wrote about the 4B movement, and wondered aloud what a man could add to my life besides chaos and...
on stigma and opting out
The perfect beach towel Over the last week I have spent hours on TikTok watching videos about the 4B movement. (Service 95) This is a movement where straight...
vanity, filters, links
Art by Gürbüz Dogan Eksioglu (click image for more) On a scale of 1-10, where are you on the vanity spectrum? How much time do you spend looking at yourself...
errands as distraction
One of my favorite Jacob photos Two weeks ago, I wrote about my nephew’s Make-A-Wish bus ride. (Buttondown) Thanks for all the kind responses. Emailing and...
celebrations and grief
Cookies by @cookiechica I'm too drained and tired to proofread. Apologies for any typos. My youngest nephew, Jacob, is dying. He has terminal cancer. Today...
just a bunch of links
Someone in Dayton, OH has unearthed a ton of 70s prints. My niece won her election for third grade class president. (There are serious recess issues that...
bad crochet and worse men
Ruth Asawa sculptures at the Glenstone Museum At some point in 2020 or 2021, when it still didn't feel safe to be outside and/or around other people, I...
not a love letter
Genius and, unfortunately, sold out. Herpes Kill Switch is my new band name Dear Apple, Who is in charge of your email product, that iCloud, me- or mac-dot-...
Lithium Receipt is my new band name
I want to buy this and hang it over my toilet. Dry January surprises My first serious Dry January effort ended last night at Blues Alley in Georgetown. I'm...
how - or if - to store other people's memories
We got snow! Wheeee! Somewhere on the internet there is a clip of Denzel Washington saying "You'll never see a U-Haul behind a hearse." Meaning, you can't...
links with a side of hormones and catholics
My feeds tell me today is Quitting Day, or the day when most people give up enforcing/practicing their New Year's resolutions. I guess that means the bars...
angels, owls, and the bare minimum
"Three Eyes," a print by Kaoru Kawano My neighbor, I will call him Sam, is from Iran. He's an immigration lawyer for a large respected immigrant aid...
diapers, shoes, and saying no
Me as a Disney villain, according to a TikTok filter. Be grateful I'm not showing you what I look like with the Justin Bieber filter. This is a long one....
running away and making pound cake
Last weekend I went to this place in Bethesda, MD called The Writer's Center for a celebration/launch of a new book called Already Gone. The book is a...
nightmares, language barriers, and shopping
Kistchy prayer candles make great holiday gifts, right? No deep thoughts this week, just a couple quick stories. I had a dog here for six nights. His name is...
chopper dubstep
Chopper, the 2-year-old Border Collie/Cocker Spaniel mix who is staying with me over Thanksgiving while his people go to Florida. In the spirit of...
long-term decisions
Simone Leigh's "Bisi" sculpture, currently at DC's Hirshhorn museum Unpleasant planning When I turned 40, I walked into a lawyer's office on my lunch break...
one's gotta go
One of the dresses at the Brooklyn Museum's African fashion exhibit One's gotta go Seven years ago, Shonda Rhimes published Year of Yes (Bookshop). From what...