Well, February happened and a lot of us are forever changed by it, myself included. If you're struggling right now, please know that it's normal to struggle in times of overwhelm and crisis like this and that we aren't wired to thrive under this kind of constant overwhelm and stress.

I know I'm not wired to live like this, and I'm very grateful for the virtual and in-person communities that support me when things get hard.

Community Took Care Of Me When I Really Needed It

Please note, this section contains reference to violence. Feel free to skip to the next section if that's not something you want to read right now.

If you follow me on social media, your probably saw that I've been running a GoFundMe fundraiser for about a week now to help me recover from a terrifying experience. On the evening of February 20th, I was jumped by three men in masks who were hoping to steal my phone while I was walking to the subway.

Thanks to luck and some self-defence training (think duck-and-roll, not throwing punches), I managed to get away with pretty minor injuries. I've never been so scared in my life; to put it mildly I've had a hard time since. I'm incredibly fortunate to have an amazing group of people in my life who have supported me and my heart is full of love for everyone who cared for me. From giving me a ride, to walking me to the subway, to being a shoulder to cry on, I am so blessed to have the support I have received.

Working in community doesn't pay the best and being a student isn't cheap. Dealing with this fear and trauma is going to require some slowness and some care, and that's hard to accomplish and also pay the bills. Capitalism doesn't care about trauma, and I desperately wish I lived in a world where we took care of people in their time of need.

Asking for help was hard, and continues to be hard. As I have mentioned in other spaces, I'm working through my internalized ableism and believe in the idea that I help build the world I want by being brave and asking for what I need.

To be clear, all of the care I have been given was provided to me by people I've met through kink, sexuality, or disability communities. We might meet because of how we have sex or how we're different, but we fucking show up. The moral decay of the world is not the perverts; it's the capitalists who try to convince us that we are alone and better off for it.

Because my community showed up for me, I have been able to reduce how much I work for a little while and give myself more space to heal. Breathing room now means I hopefully won't burn out later.

If you are able to donate, it would mean a lot . But whether you donate or not, please know I appreciate the care of my communities so much; I couldn't have gotten through this time without you.

Upcoming Kink & Sexuality Workshops

Now, here's the fun stuff! I did cancel one recent workshop on protocol and will try and reschedule it later in the year! But the following are still happening!

March 11, 2026 - Cultivating Service: A Guide For Service Submissives

Brand new workshop!

Let’s explore the art of intentional service!  We’ll learn about household management, personalized care, and talk about the pros and cons of “anticipatory” service. Whether you are new to your path of service submission or an experienced servant, join Dare as they discuss service submission, from the practical to the philosophical!

Tickets on sale here

March 18, 2026 - Care When There Is No "After": Ongoing Care For Persistent Power Dynamics

For those of us in ongoing, persistent power dynamics, the idea of “aftercare” can be challenging. In this workshop, Dare will discuss several aspects of care for ongoing dynamics, including:

• Recognizing where care is needed
• Understanding where our peaks and valleys happen
• Understanding evolving care needs
• Establishing care inside & outside our dynamics
• Communication of care needs within our dynamics
• Understand the impact of our wider lives, how our power dynamics fits into it, and how that impacts care
• Explore aspects of our dynamic that are care

Get tickets here

April 1, 2026 - Knowing Ourselves As Submissives

Who am I as a submissive? This workshop guides attendees through reflective exercises and discussions to uncover their unique submissive identity, fostering authenticity in D/s connections both inside and outside of the dungeon.

By exploring questions to help submissives and their dominant partner(s) understand their unique submissive identity, attendees will leave the workshop with a deeper connection to their submission and new language to describe their needs and desires.

Tickets are on sale

Until Next Time

Be safe, be well, and try to get outside today!