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i'm thankful that d and i had a long argument yesterday, not because of the argument, since i don't like having arguments and especially not long arguments and especially not with d, the person who i love most, but i'm thankful because around this time two years ago, we were locked in a constant weeks-long horror movie argument that seemed like it might never end, where it seemed like the person who i love most resented and hated me. i'm thankful that seemingly endless argument, with lots of work and time, eventually ended, and i'm thankful that the argument we had yesterday, and so many arguments we've had since, ended, and i'm thankful that the arguments feel not like horror movies but like complicated people who love each other very much trying to work through our differences and difficulties so we can stay together until the end of our days.