she said to me condescendingly

April 5, 2024

at work we had a long guild discussion about the fraught relationship between engineering and design, which was enriching and also hilarious because usually...

deborah's march vlog, a highlight of my life

April 2, 2024

it's time for another monthly vlog from deborah, here is a short concrete description of every shot in the video. i watch rough cuts of this video all month...

out of memory

March 29, 2024

i had a pretty good day on wednesday and because i want to record it as a kind of talisman to grasp on bad days and also i think it's interesting to read...

frank o'hara's walk poems

March 25, 2024

i'm thankful that though i had a really weird and unpleasant spike of nausea on friday afternoon that made it impossible for a while to think of anything but...

the dream of spoiler-free search

March 22, 2024

miso went to daycare yesterday because they were supposed to mulch the stump of the tree they unnecessarily cut down in our backyard (they didn't end up...

not afraid to be servicey

March 21, 2024

i'm really sorry to do this to you but i have been living with this inside me for so long and i wonder if in the tradition of email chain letters / curses in...

...audioslave?

March 19, 2024

the work problems i was ambiently dreading having to figure out for the start of my monday i found, on holding my breath while opening slack and checking my...

little orange raindrops

March 18, 2024

the weather was all of a sudden very nice (65-70f/18.3-211c) all weekend, it really feels like spring is here. on saturday we had a little cookout (i'm...

a book i could not tear myself away from

March 11, 2024

molly by blake butler a book i could not tear myself away from in order to write these notes "on time" yesterday, my strongest possible recommendation if you...

making pasta the right way

March 8, 2024

my previous job is having their company retreat and because of watching on instagram i had a dream about it and as someone who has worked fully remotely for...

my plot memory fades very quickly

March 7, 2024

i'm thankful that i put miso's little dog bed beside my desk chair and that she sleeps there for large parts of the day (deborah and i say it is her office...

the official embarrassment of being represented abroad by short people

March 6, 2024

i'm thankful that e, who i have deep spiritual overlap with in so many respects, pointed out a new york fascination era that is absolutely central to my...

a charming way to process the anxiety of feeling late

March 5, 2024

i'm thankful we got an unexpected christmas package from my brother and his wife (which included among other things: an otamatone, chocolate truffles,...

compliment sandwich artist

March 3, 2024

friday after getting design approval 😎 and the QA engineer who had been working on my PR being laid off 🙃, i thought i was going to be finally done with it...

curtsying and lunging

March 1, 2024

i'm thankful for the internet archive, which performs a number of serious essential services but i am particularly thankful because last night we used it to...

my san junipero

February 28, 2024

i'm thankful that a designer who is known for being very picky about pixels (somewhat unfairly, i think) DMed me to ask if i wanted only part of his feedback...

freeze-dried sour skittles

February 25, 2024

hanging out at k and t's on friday night, smoking a bloint outside their house (and it not being dark yet because the days are getting longer), margaritas...

finishing the curse

February 22, 2024

finishing the curse after leaving the last two episodes unwatched for weeks because it was so deeply (intentionally) cringe that as the season went on, i...

miso says free palestine

February 20, 2024

e told me she's coming back to visit portland in the fall, the best local news of 2024 so far. on saturday we went to din tai fung for lunch with k, t, ec,...

à la American Pie

February 15, 2024

for valentine's day charcuterie board, deborah made focaccia for the first time (from this recipe, minus the garlic butter, which (somehow i am saying this...

haim's valentine

February 14, 2024

haim's "valentine", their best work which i will never get tired of watching my favorite valentine's day candy to get as a child which were the little pink...

a correction

February 14, 2024

this is embarrassing and normally i like to think of myself as a thoughtful person who carefully sources and checks my facts and who does the reading before...

two recipes deborah made for dinner

February 13, 2024

we were talking about the phrases used to describe sunshine while it's raining in different languages (i heard "the devil is beating his wife" so much...

my favorite recent book

February 11, 2024

my favorite recent book is love in a time of hate: art and passion in the shadow of war by florian illies, an anecdotal fragmentary gossipy cultural history...

teslas are the subaru of LA

February 10, 2024

i'm thankful we could afford to take a brief vacation to LA last weekend to get out of endless rainy portland winter, even though as it turned out it rained,...

bulldozing for content

February 9, 2024

here's an erasure i did of the New York Times article "What Israeli Soldiers’ Videos Reveal: Cheering Destruction and Mocking Gazans" (you can hear me...

no more dying

January 30, 2024

years ago i recorded a musical setting of frank o'hara reading his poem "ode to joy" and last night i cut a video from "third avenue el", a short film that...

on fridays we don't have meetings

January 26, 2024

i'm thankful that last night we were watching a particularly beautiful episode of terrace house where yusuke, a sweet shy sad boy who is very good at playing...

it is possible, it really can happen

January 23, 2024

when i got to the doctor's office right when they opened at 8 this morning (i had to fast before bloodwork) they asked me for my phone number and i literally...

boycott, sanction, divest, and

January 21, 2024

e sent me this text while listening to graceland earlier i was thinking about my appreciation for songs that start in one place tonally / melodically / etc...

dexterity rolls

January 17, 2024

as a lifelong pedestrian married to a driver who does not enjoy long strolls in inclement weather, i always appreciate when we're snowed in (in bloomington,...

saltburn viewing party

January 14, 2024

ec's saltburn viewing party friday didn't get cancelled due to inclement weather arriving more slowly than expected and we carpooled with k and t (with a pit...

throwing panties in the pool (justin's version)

January 10, 2024

when we were on molly saturday and lying in bed in each others arms after fucking, deborah brought up a yoko ono meme i'd shared recently (where yoko had...

the most positive development in my life as a hater

January 6, 2024

delightful run of texts with e about AI after she sent me a link to colin meloy's newsletter about using chatGPT to write a song prefaced by "i feel like you...

kissed at midnight

January 2, 2024

on new years eve did karaoke in the attic with deborah (songs included: "feather" by sabrina carpenter; "all american bitch", "get him back", and "making the...

"let Gaza be part of it"

January 1, 2024

arriving at the portland airport at night, which always tries to kick up some residual PTSD as i walk down the anonymous darkened hallway because meeting in...

fucking love to muse

December 27, 2023

mein gott

December 25, 2023

honeysuckle in the breeze

December 24, 2023

prescription sunglasses

December 22, 2023

the first time i threw up on the flight to hawaii

December 20, 2023

is your heart constipated

December 14, 2023

i'm thankful that a plumber is coming to fix our broken toilet this afternoon. i'm thankful that we have a backup toilet in our basement, that our toilet...

renaissauce

December 10, 2023

i'm thankful for how the opening monologue of the renaissance tour movie is literally beyoncé saying a litany of sentences that start with "i'm thankful...

my favorite tinyletter

December 7, 2023

icymi, mailchimp announced that they're finally shutting down tinyletter next spring. as someone who works at a tech company and has had to support aging...

i'm a fucking caveman

December 6, 2023

this video "how i got out of zionism" sarah shared of shlomo yitzchak who tells a very powerful story about a day of epiphanies he experienced while studying...

people are often cats

December 4, 2023

comics from ellen o'grady about palestine (her most recent series: adaptations of letters she sent to her parents when she lived there: 1, 2, 3). the content...

long text theory

December 3, 2023

i have an axiom called the long text theory which posits that, generally, there is no such thing as a good long text message (using "text message" as a...

i tease her from a place of eternal love

December 2, 2023

something i've teased deborah for in the past is her "phone voice," like how when she is talking on the phone to a stranger she sounds like a different...

forced perspective

November 24, 2023

"a technique that employs optical illusion to make an object appear farther away, closer, larger or smaller than it actually is"

crystallize my values in the form of some DMs

November 10, 2023

i'm thankful, even though it pissed me off, that yesterday morning [redacted] shared this post to her instagram story   and that after reading it several...