the mundane, the ordinary (deborah)
I’m thankful to have finished reading vol. 2 of thank you notes from 2016 and to have informed J of this in hopes that he will create an omnibus ebook soon....
the deep work (deborah)
I’m thankful for the running joke by Don Draper in Mad Men that creatives tend to look like they’re doing nothing when they’re doing the deep work of...
easily surmountable challenges (deborah)
I’m thankful that I suggested that we skip the grocery store and spend our Sunday doing something else. I’m thankful that J suggested we take a walk...
endless crying (deborah)
9/17/25 Last night I couldn’t fall asleep. Falling asleep is one of my greatest skills, so it’s alarming when I can’t feel that soft blanket of slumber fall...
powerless (deborah)
On Labor Day, I woke up in the middle of the night to pee and noticed that the toilet seat was cold. Then I noticed that it was completely dark outside....
my personal chef
for many years, i prided myself on my cooking and the fact that i was the primary cook in my household, which i saw as an expression of my skill and taste...
a cosmic uncertainty (deborah)
Consciousness is very weird. I have been thinking a lot about life and death and mortality recently, partly because I am nearing the end of my thirties and...
both ears ringing with your love
it's still summer and the song i play on loop tonight is “TOURMALINE”. he's made such art of ego and alienation and i love all the years of it but this is a...
dragon’s breath (deborah)
J referred to his laptop as cursed object the other day and I keep thinking about it. Our jobs require us to stay latched to our screens and after a day of...
[programming note]
i gave deborah the password to this account so she can send emails and i am going to try to recommit to sending them also instead of occasionally starting...
getting high on my own supply - 20. "american idyll"
"american idyll" (november 2007) deborah and i were going to the grocery store to buy ice and margarita mix today and i forgot my phone so we were listening...
recommendations can be a form of diary
it's winter which means watching even more television than the lots of television i normally watch and i am here to tell you the best recent reality show you...
the italian word is camera
in the weeks leading up to the tiktok ban, i started watching more and more of it because i felt that my for you feed was a part of me and i was going to...
ceasefire
oppressed people liberating themselves pt. 2
oppressed people liberating themselves oppressed people liberating themselves oppressed people liberating themselves oppressed people liberating themselves...
life in the machine
texting with e about her things i love that reasonable people hate list and her absolutely perfect first one (the lingering smell on your hands after...
another thing to blame on the patriarchy
deborah helped finish setting up the new treadmill which i was happy enough to leave in a functional but half-finished state for maybe forever (a metaphor...
i touch myself
my old coworker cn released an amazing mashup mixtape that has a particularly bravura sequence (starts at 5:35) that goes from doechii over charli (well...
a perfect album
in the same way that everything went wrong at work today everything went right today, which is not to say it was a perfect day but i started, after doing a...
how "our souls" sounds like "arseholes"
the integration i've been the lead developer on since the beginning of november was supposed to launch today and the project has gone really well in terms of...