Across and Beyond 008: Miscellany
No • 1
My packing dildo fell out of my pants. Do I pick it up, look at it, display mock disgust and walk away like I don’t even see it? And if I leave it, what if somebody returns it to me saying, “Hey, did you lose this?”
No • 2
Of all the measures of “real men”—length, girth, height, weight, stubble, testosterone, a helicopter pilot’s license—Cooper continually refers back to one: He is a man because he satisfies a woman as one. He spells this out in his contribution to Esquire’s “How to Be a Man” issue, which the magazine omitted “in favor of insights from guys like Tom Cruise.” He tells Esquire that “the unconditional acceptance from and love of the best woman in the world” has “probably made me more of a man than any of the other shit out there, including testosterone.
No • 3
First forget inspiration. Habit is more dependable. Habit will sustain you whether you’re inspired or not. Habit is persistence in practice.