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Home Again, Home Again

September 28, 2021

There's an old nursery rhyme called "To Market, To Market." The couplet from it that people tend to know is: "To market, to market, to buy a fat pig,Home...

Stuck

September 23, 2021

For the past week or so, I've been thinking about what this first post-US trip newsletter would be about. Maybe I would write about how it seems like, no...

I'm Flying to the US in ONE Week

September 1, 2021

Assuming everything goes smoothly, I’ll be boarding a flight to Boston next week. I’m looking forward to seeing my mom and visiting the beach in Rhode...

A Lovely Houseguest

August 31, 2021

I didn’t write a newsletter yesterday because, as I mentioned last Thursday, E’s sister, Far, was in town for the weekend. Far lives in Hawai’i, so it was...

Weekdays

August 26, 2021

I'm trying to decide if I should quit my job. As I mentioned in yesterday's newsletter, it's part-time and provides my days with some structure. It also...

Weekends

August 25, 2021

In her role as the Dowager Countess on Downton Abbey, Maggie Smith once delivered the memorable and oft-quoted line, “what is a week-end?” Her character is...

A Spicy Hot Taskmaster Take (Part 2)

August 24, 2021

In yesterday’s newsletter, I mentioned that E and I have been watching Taskmaster, a British comedy game show. And something that recently struck me about...

A Spicy Hot Taskmaster Take (Part 1)

August 23, 2021

On a recommendation from our friend RJ, E and I have started watching Taskmaster, a British game show where comedians compete in a series of bizarre and...

die Dachterrasse

August 19, 2021

One of the best things about our new apartment is the balcony. Our old place had a balcony - they're pretty common in Berlin, and in European architecture,...

I'm Flying to the US in 3 Weeks

August 18, 2021

And I feel really weird about it. (Content warning: this is another pandemic-centric newsletter so please feel free to skip it and take care of yourself if...

Fall is coming

August 17, 2021

I woke up in the middle of the night last night and had to grab an extra blanket for the bed because my toes were cold. This morning it is gray and windy in...

Things that are just nice

August 16, 2021

Last week, I videochatted with a friend who I hadn’t spoken to in quite a while. He and I met during our freshman year of high school, dated for a hot...

Meds

August 5, 2021

Lately I’ve been listening to the podcast Queersplaining. On a recent episode, the host, Callie Wright, talked about how they had started taking Wellbutrin...

In Search of Queer Joy (Part 4)

August 4, 2021

This is it. Today is the day. The time is now. For today's newsletter, I'm going to list (in no particular order) as many joyful queer moments and places and...

Some Thoughts on Writing This Newsletter

August 3, 2021

I’ve now written three issues of this newsletter under the title “In Search of Queer Joy,” and I’m quite pleased with how parts one and two turned out. I...

We're morning people now

August 2, 2021

At this point, my husband E and I have been jokingly saying "we're morning people now" for about a week. "Oh boy, 9pm, better get to bed. We're morning...

A Moving Interlude

July 29, 2021

An interlude about moving, that is. Not a particularly emotionally stirring interlude. Because I'm so exhausted this week and I don't have the energy for...

In Search of Queer Joy (Part 3)

July 28, 2021

In the previous issue of this newsletter, we left off with the question: Where is your queer joy? So… let’s talk about Janelle Monáe. If I had to credit my...

In Search of Queer Joy (Part 2)

July 22, 2021

Last year, on a video call with Lisa (who I mentioned in the previous newsletter) and our friends, Jack and Kit, I expressed my frustration around my newly...

In Search of Queer Joy (Part 1)

July 21, 2021

A couple of my friends came out last year and they were so excited to be embracing their true selves. They were so joyful about their newfound queerness and...