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October 9, 2020

I didn’t know it at the time, but I was depressed. I was 23 years old. And after 18 months away from home, I was back in my parents house. To stay, as far as...

Day 0: What does it mean to be “sensitive”?

October 8, 2020

I’ve always had a love-hate relationship with being a “sensitive” guy. In my work — sales and marketing — you’re often told to develop a “thick skin.” When...

A timeline of my history with PUA

October 8, 2020

I’ve been thinking a lot about why and how I got so deeply entrenched in PUA. So I jotted this list down for myself, to see what I’ve spent money on and...

Be your own best partner

October 7, 2020

I heard that Emma Watson is turning 30 and is happily single — referring to herself as “self-partnered.” What does she actually mean by that? I don’t know. I...

Got a bad haircut. Can I still love myself?

October 7, 2020

I got a haircut last night. My first haircut in a year. My girlfriend says I look like this: I think I look more like this: Whether or not it’s true, I...

I have dysfunctional boundaries

October 7, 2020

Reading Pia Mellody’s work has got me thinking a lot about boundaries — something I’ve heard people talk about in the past but never took seriously. I...

Letter to my inner child about “approaching”

October 7, 2020

Ever since I got into PUA years ago, I’ve felt an immense pressure to always “approach” any attractive girl I see. Due to my own fear I hardly ever actually...

I think I’m finally done with Jordan Peterson

October 7, 2020

I used to be a real Jordan Peterson fanboy. But I haven’t paid much attention to him in about a year (for reasons I’ll share another day). But last night I...

When I see an attractive woman I feel…

October 7, 2020

Since joining John Cooper’s Social Heartiste Academy, I’ve been making a habit of getting clear about the emotions I feel around beautiful women. So I...

The zombie emotions that kill us

October 6, 2020

The other day a friend of mine told me about one of the more gruesome ways nature finds to perpetuate life. In the rainforest of Brazil, there’s a species of...

The gift of shame

October 6, 2020

When you feel shame — and it’s your own shame (as opposed to “carried shame”) — it feels like mild-to-moderate embarrassment. It comes about when your brain...

Asking for what I need even when it hurts

October 6, 2020

I’m lonely today. It’s beautiful out, but I’m lonely. I woke up at 11:50am. The original plan was to catch a 7:45am flight to visit my girlfriend for the...

Do we need sex?

October 6, 2020

Last night I read another chapter of Facing Codependence by Pia Mellody. I picked up this book after finding out that she’s one of Brent Charleton’s primary...

How to be vulnerable like a bro

October 6, 2020

Today I decided to stop twiddling my thumbs about all this and just write. Instead of spending the next days, weeks, and months (which I’ve been doing)...