Hi, friends.

My therapist recently told me something that’s changed my mindset in the deepest way. You are only responsible for yourself. Don’t fret over the people and things that are out of your control. Work, traffic, annoying neighbors—they exist with or without your acknowledgment. Stop spending your precious time being upset about them.

It’s freeing. If you’ve been feeling trapped, too, try giving that mantra a go.

Along with that, about a month ago I decided to focus on the things I want to do for me and no one else, and it’s been amazing. I’m only taking on freelance projects that inspire and excite me. I’m only reading books that make me want to stay up past my bedtime. I went to an in-store book club meeting with one of my fave authors, Leigh Stein, where a group of 12 strangers sat in a circle and drank wine and talked about the internet for two hours. It was magical.