Welcome to Yes Yes, my monthly advice column. I am writing to you from the meadow my house sits in during lesbian visibility week. Last night me and a few queers watched The Whistle on PBS - a documentary about dykes in the 70’s and 80’s in Albuquerque who used codes to communicate safely with each other. It is great I think you should watch.

At many points in the last six years I identified as a lesbian, a dyke, a woman who loved women. As my gender shifted my allegiance to these words as identifiers have as well. But I know that who I have gotten to love in my life is because of the visibility of dykes and lesbians now and forever. Liking boys again has been the surprise of a century, read on to find out more

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