Deciding about grad school, seeing past loves, and the resistance to people pleasing

Welcome to Yes Yes, my monthly advice column here for its triumphant return. Pop your questions in for next month. I am writing to you from my house in the North on a cool September morning. I feel grateful for the ways the seasons change and grateful for the ways I change and the ways I stay the same.

The past few weeks I have been orienting towards the big possibility of going to grad school, specifically to get my MFA in Interdisciplinary Arts at Goddard College in Vermont. Their low residency format, vibe, and faculty have pulled me in and I am longing for more mentorship, peers, and rigor in academic study.

I thought I wasn’t book smart enough for my Quilt Studies program, which I dropped out of, but really it was that the history and instruction style wasn’t grabbing me. I asked a lot of friends advice but what I really did was looked within for the answers. It shaped me in seeing that what I want is deeper study and a full masters degree. I write more about this in today’s column.