December 15, 2022

On the desire beneath

Once a week I open Skype.

After the words Ready when you are bubble up, I click the video button. My therapist Steven answers on Devon's south coast. Gulls cry in the background.

Today we were talking – à la IFS therapy – about the child part of me who wants to stay in bed all day.

But I don't want to stay in bed all day. And neither does the child part, really. She'd get bored and hungry.

What's the desire beneath? Steven asked.

Safety. Rest. Warmth. Stillness.

I really liked that simple question.