Three Poems Of Mine That Should Never Have Become As Relevant As They Are Now
Three Poems Of Mine That Should Never Have Become As Relevant As They Are Now
Sometimes you publish a poem in response to the current moment, whatever that may be, and then the moment passes, and the poem no longer feels as urgent as it once did. In our current moment—as the right begins its prosecution of what are essentially two wars, one on the reproductive autonomy of anyone who can get pregnant and one on people whom I will broadly call queer, to represent anyone who does not conform to the strict, heteronormative, gender binary—three poems of mine, two from The Silence of Men and one from Words For What Those Men Have Done have suddenly become more relevant than they ever should have been in the first place. I’m writing now to share them with you, but first I’d like to tell you a little bit about their history.
I’ll start with the poems from The Silence of Men. At the readings I gave when the book first came out in 2006, I made a point of including “Melissa’s Story” and “Bill’s Story” in my set pretty frequently. Reproductive rights had been a major issue in the 2004 presidential election, and I wanted to do my part to keep the issue front and center in whatever way I could. I wrote the poems after reading Back Rooms: Voices from the Illegal Abortion Era, edited by Ellen Messer and Kathryn E. May. “Melissa’s Story” is spoken by a woman who pays a doctor for an illegal abortion. “Bill’s Story” is spoken by a man some non-specified but significant number of years after his pregnant girlfriend was sent against her will, and against what the teen couple wanted for themselves, to what used to be called a home for unwed mothers, where she was forced to put the child they conceived up for adoption.
In practical terms at least, we are no doubt farther away from men having to live Bill’s experience than we are from women having to live Melissa’s. Given the particular form of Christian morality that is driving the anti-abortion movement, however, it would be naïve to think some version of homes for unwed mothers could never make a comeback. It was, and is, important to me to give voice to Bill’s experience because it represents a rarely acknowledged stake that those of us who can’t get pregnant have in reproductive autonomy.
Melissa’s Story
The doctor gave instructions like a spy:
Be there, seven pm, on the dot.
If you’re not, I’m gone. Don’t even think about
another appointment. Got it? That day,
of course, there was traffic, and the money
had to be in small, old bills. You will get
in my car as if we were lovers. At the spot,
you’ll step out first. Walk when and where I say.
Make a mistake and I leave. Understood?
I did. Somehow it went without a snag,
and there I was, legs open on a bed,
with a man crouched between them like a dog.
He reached into me and scraped away the life
I’d almost made, not yet mine to give.
Bill’s Story
He talked about her like she was a boat.
You just loaded the ship, son. Where the wind
takes it is out of your hands, hear? She’ll find
a port to dock in. Just be glad you got
what you wanted without getting shot.
Her parents were no better, as if I’d planned
to make her pregnant. We begged them not to send
her away. Once she was gone, they moved out.
Not long after the birth-month, her single
letter came: I named him Bill. Then they took him.
Years later, I drove to where the postmark
pointed. No one would speak to me. I still
hope, though. My son is old enough to look,
and I deserve to tell him who I am.
The third poem I want to share with you, from Words For What Those Men Have Done, is called “It Must Include The Body.” I wrote it before marriage equality became the law of the land, and I truly thought, once it did become law, that this would be a poem from a time we had left behind as a country. I have obviously learned how wrong I was. The poem takes a while to get where it’s going, so just go with the flow of it.
It Must Include the Body
Belly like a watermelon
stuffed up the front
of her white cotton summer dress,
the pregnant woman at the corner
turns her back to me to face
the direction she’ll cross the street in,
and what she’s wearing
flares from the waist down
in a twirl that settles
along the line of her hips
till only the hem that falls
to just above her ankles
is still rippling, a flag
waving surrender
to this late September day.
My eyes lift to her shoulders,
follow the contour the fabric traces
down from the loops
through which her tanned arms emerge
to the curve of her butt cheeks
that bounce lightly as she steps back,
just avoiding the taxi
pulling up fast
to the curb where she’s standing.
She’s as tall as me or taller,
black hair tied tight in a braid
pointing like a compass to the small of her back,
and her dress is not unlike the one
you wore the night we wandered the beach,
till the boardwalk lights were stars blinking at our backs
and the campfires scattered across the sand
were the signal flames of a distant town.
The moon over the ocean
cast our shadows behind us.
You leaned against me, the blue cloth
of what you were wearing
bunched in my left hand.
With my right, I found you wet,
though wet
doesn’t really do it justice.
You half-purred a laugh
as I stroked and pulled and gently parted
the hair you let grow in
once the lover who kept you shaved was gone.
Lifting your face to mine, you whispered
that the breeze was like the water’s breath
just before it touched its tongue to you,
and when I kissed the lips
you shaped those words with,
you came, calling your pleasure
out to the open sea
for the wind and tide to carry
who-knows-where.
Walking back to our hotel, I thought
how you have only ever called it your vagina.
Then, later, while you slept, I tried to list
the rhyming words I’d need to write a sonnet,
but China, Carolina, trichina, and angina
were the best I could do. The off-rhymes—
Montana, banana, cabana—were no better,
but then I heard that New Yawk accent
you love to mimic: designah, finah, minah,
reclinah—that last one bringing back to me
the woman from the conference,
who worried over two more whiskeys
than either of us should have had
that three kids had made her
“roomier down there”
than any man other than the husband
she’d been needing to leave for years
would want, and so she hadn’t left him.
“I can’t believe I’m telling you this,” she said,
blushing that the man she planned to make the next night
the only other man ever to touch her
might think he should be moving
“furniture in down there, not his dick.”
“If a man cares that much about size,” I told her,
“he doesn’t deserve an adulterous woman.”
The light turns green,
and the mother-to-be
who started these lines
crosses First Avenue
into the rest of her life,
the crowd she moves with large enough
that the left turn I have to wait for
will get me to Shahob’s school
five minutes later
than the fifteen he’s already missed.
“But why does George Bush care
if two men get married?”
he asks from the back seat,
giving voice yet again
to last night’s bedtime conversation.
“I know a man’s penis fits
a woman’s vagina, but that’s not
love; and people love babies,
but babies aren’t love;
and two women, if they
get married, each one
can have a baby, but even that’s
not love. Two men can’t, but if
they love each other,
so what? You don’t marry
a body; you marry
a person. Bush doesn’t
get this? He’s an idiot!”
Our boy takes my hand for the few steps
leading up to the building’s entrance,
letting go, as has become his habit,
just shy of the security guard’s line of sight.
“Seriously,” he says, “when I get home
you need to explain this to me.”
Then he’s running fast as he can
past the front desk, arms and legs
pumping, backpack swinging,
the long hair that some still take for a girl’s
bouncing with each stride
up around his head.
I get back into the driver’s seat,
turn the key, put the car in reverse.
With my foot on the brake,
my eyes in the rearview mirror
stare back at me what I know is true:
if you will not love the body,
you cannot love the person.
I’m glad our son
can’t yet imagine that.
I’ve never done this before in my newsletter, but I am going to ask, if these poems have moved you, that you consider sharing them. Poetry is not the only way, but it is one important way, that we can speak truth to power, whether the power we are speaking to is the one we are resisting or the one within ourselves from which we draw the strength for that resistance.
As usual, I’d love to hear what you think and—this, too, I’ve never done before—if you do share this issue and you think my newsletter is worthwhile, please consider encouraging the people you share it with to subscribe. The link is at the bottom of this email.
Richard
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News
Publications:
iambapoet is an ambitious project started by Mark Antony Owen—he’s on Twitter here and the project can be found here—that brings together print and audio publication in a visually pleasing format. Three of my poems have just been published in Wave 10. The first two are from my forthcoming collection, T’shuvah, while “After Drought” is from The Silence Of Men. (The links below will take you to Soundcloud recordings of me reading the poems. If you’d like to read them while you listen, or just read them for yourself, click on the link above.)
The rest of the poets in my cohort, as well as the poets in each of previous nine waves, are also worth reading/listening through.
Books I’m Reading
I’m reading two very different books of poetry simultaneously. Aside from being interested in the books themselves, I am interested in the questions raised for me by the differences between them about what matters to me in my own work and the work I want my poems to do in the world.
Shrapnel Maps, by Philip Metres: Large in it ambitions, this book takes on the Israel/Palestine conflict, trying—as best I can tell—to acknowledge and validate the emotional and psychological realities of both sides, to recognize both historical perspectives, without losing site of the fact that Israel is an occupying power and that the Palestinians have suffered myriad injustices as a result. The jury is still out for me on whether or not I think the book is ultimately successful; it’s dense enough that one reading is not sufficient to give it a fair shake. Metres’ formal innovations, even at the level of syntax, are often highly wrought and strike me as academic, or at least highly intellectualized, which makes me wonder whom he thought of as his audience and what he wanted the book to do for them.
What We Do To Make Us Whole, by Christina Rau: If Metres’ project is to map what I’ll call an interior reality of the Palestine/Israel conflict using fragments of the metaphorical “shrapnel” scattered by the region’s explosive history, Christina Rau’s is to use language to piece together the pieces of a broken, shattered self. Unlike Metres, however, she does this in poems that are immediately accessible, generally straightforward, and anything but simple. I’m not yet done with this book, but I have been moved in poem after poem, by the power and elegance of the language.
Online Reading I’d Recommend
- “Listening to history 50 years ago,” by Frances Scanlon, about a little known moment in the life of John Lennon and Yoko Ono.
- “On Ido and Far-Right Subversion,” Jayeless.net, about how Nazis took over an online forum devoted to Ido, an auxiliary language like Esperanto. The post raises important questions about the limits of tolerance.
- “Labyrinths: On the Centennial of Salvador Espriu,” by Rowan Ricardo Phillips. I have been working with the translator Sonia Alland to help her bring Espriu’s poems into English. He’s a very interesting writer and Phillips’ brief essay gives some insight into why.
- “What Antisemitic Conspiracy Theorists Believe About Vaccines,” by Ellen Wexler. None of the theories will surprise you, but it’s nonetheless a sobering reminder.
- “With Cameras on Every Phone, Will Broadway’s Nude Scenes Survive? - The New York Times,” by Matt Stevens. The title speaks for itself.
- “A Texas Take on Guns,” by M. M. De Voe. Not the pro-gun take you might expect, given the title.
- This Twitter thread by Rabbi Daniel Bogard about Jewish tradition and gender. In his words, “It’s a lot queerer and less binary than y’all seem to think.” Amplifying this reading of Jewish tradition has become a thing on Twitter. I haven’t yet dug more deeply than the Twitter threads, but plan to.
- “From The Depths,” by Richard Hoffman. A deeply personal confrontation with white supremacy/neo-Nazism that also raises important questions about the limits of acceptance and tolerance.
- “The Future of Abortion in a Post-Roe America,” by Jessica Bruder. The title and subtitle—“Inside the covert network preparing to circumvent restrictions”—speak for themselves.
What I’m Listening To
- Axiom of Choice. They fuse Persian classical music and modern Western musical concepts. Here’s Evanescent from the album Unfolding.
- The Art of Conversation - Kenny Barron & Dave Holland. An album made up entirely of piano and bass jazz “conversations.” Here’s In Walked Bud.
- Joan Osborne’s Righteous Love. Here is Love Is Alive.